W a yPEis ONE THIN GI D OWhen we tackle several <strong>change</strong>s at once,we can wind up changing nothing at all.y watch pointe d t o 6:3 0 A.M. , which explaine d part , bu tnot all , of m y grogginess. Visiting m y ho<strong>me</strong><strong>to</strong>wn o n vaca -tion, I had just drive n Mo m t o work s o I could us e her ca r fo rshopping later .While waiting for a red ligh t t o <strong>change</strong>, m y mind wandere d<strong>to</strong> a n articl e I had lef t on m y desk fiv e hundred mile s away .Rewriting i t i n m y head, I half-noticed tw o vehicles pullin garound m e and drivin g off. A man i n a pickup truc k <strong>to</strong>sse d m e aweird loo k a s he spe d by . I considered returnin g th e favor , bu tglanced u p a t the street light instead .Green. Bu t i n a few mo<strong>me</strong>nts i t turned red .Oh no, I thought. Ijust sat through a green light!I slouched i n th e driver' s seat , overco<strong>me</strong> b y the demis e o fmy resolve t o relax. Eve n thoug h I had lef t my briefcase behind ,the manuscrip t ha d traile d m e t o Omaha, capture d m y thoughts ,and drive n m e t o distraction instea d o f down th e street . No w m yface felt as red a s the light smirkin g above <strong>me</strong> .Ask famil y and friends , and they'l l tel l yo u abou t m y pen -chant fo r taking o n <strong>to</strong> o man y project s and gettin g stresse d out ..12
A TRU E VIE W O F YO UOne personalit y tes t describes m y type as always wanting "a n extr asqueeze ou t o f life." That's fine b y <strong>me</strong>, but I don't kno w ho w t os<strong>to</strong>p squeezing before I drain th e lif e out o f myself.I seldom recogniz e when enoug h i s enough.So that da y i n th e car , I knew missin g a s<strong>to</strong>plight—or eve nthinking about a n article—wasn' t th e rea l problem. The inciden tsimply indicated that , once again, I had take n o n <strong>to</strong> o much i n <strong>to</strong> olittle ti<strong>me</strong> .onsidering m y bent <strong>to</strong>war d overdoing it , it's easy <strong>to</strong> imagin ehow I'v e attempted persona l chang e i n th e past : I'v e trie d<strong>to</strong> alter <strong>to</strong> o many things at once. And that' s a surefire way <strong>to</strong> fail.To accomplish a task well, we need t o focus.Focus <strong>me</strong>ans we concentrate o n onl y one goal .That's difficul t for many o f us . We're a generation o f dail yplanner users , manage<strong>me</strong>nt-by-objectiv e employees , an d Ne wYear's resolution writers . W e make list s and expec t t o complet ethem i n rapid-fir e succession. W e think tha t th e mor e w e handle ,the more respecte d an d successfu l we'll be .We're als o a people o f burnout an d emotiona l breakdowns .We don't kno w ho w <strong>to</strong> focus.One o f my friends, a career pianist, has <strong>help</strong>ed m e t o under -stand focus . I t began wit h a n inciden t i n colleg e whe n w e live d<strong>to</strong>gether. I spent day s studying for a test, taking nu<strong>me</strong>rous breaks ,letting m y mind wander , an d noddin g of f t o sleep. The nigh tbefore th e test , Nancy entered ou r roo m afte r 1 0 P.M. , pulled ou tthe textbook , an d bega n readin g severa l chapter s fo r the test —for the first ti<strong>me</strong> . True t o form, I fell asleep before she finished.The nex t mornin g w e both <strong>to</strong>o k th e test . Nanc y received a n"A" and I got a low "B. "We're bot h smar t wo<strong>me</strong>n, bu t Nanc y know s ho w t o focus .Twenty years later, I' m reminde d o f tha t when I see her leanin gin<strong>to</strong> th e piano , hand s a blur ove r th e keyboard , fillin g the roo mwith magnificent sounds .Me? I'm lat e getting thi s manuscript t o m y edi<strong>to</strong>r. I' m a slowlearner o n th e subject of focus.But i n th e pas t fe w years I've accepted tha t I can onl y han -dle on e chang e a t a ti<strong>me</strong>. Whil e I work o n managin g mone ybetter, it' s not wis e for <strong>me</strong> als o <strong>to</strong> diet. I risk getting <strong>to</strong>o frustratedand givin g up on both. (I'v e done tha t i n the past. )33
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