WELCOME T O M YPITY PART YFeeling sorry for ourselves can delaypersonal <strong>change</strong> and destroy relationships.-Sf opene d th e gift and fel t dumbfounded."Thanks fo r th e stuffe d animal, " I finally said , turnin gover th e gra y donkey i n m y hands. 1 vaguely recognize d hi m a sEeyore from the Winnie-the-Pooh s<strong>to</strong>ries.Why in the world would she give this <strong>to</strong> <strong>me</strong>? I wondered afte r m yfriend left the office. A donkey'? Now really! I'm a grown woman.Still, whether o r no t m y friend intended it , I sensed tha tEeyore ha d arrive d t o deliver a <strong>me</strong>ssage t o <strong>me</strong> . But what was it? Iset him asid e and continue d m y work, but I couldn't cas t of f th ecuriosity.Later when th e naggin g failed <strong>to</strong> subside, I bought a copy ofA. A. Milne's classi c book an d foun d Eeyor e i n chapter six , feelingsorry for himself.Eeyore, th e ol d gre y Donkey , s<strong>to</strong>o d b y the sid e o f th estream, and looke d a t himself i n the water ."Pathetic," he said . "That's what i t is. Pathetic. "He turne d an d walke d slowl y down th e strea m fo rtwenty yards , splashe d acros s it , and walke d slowl y
WHF.N TH E INSID E SPILL S OU Tback on th e othe r side . Then h e looke d a t himsel f i nthe water again ."As I thought," h e said . "N o better fro m this side .But nobody minds. Nobody cares. Pathetic , that's wha tit is. "There wa s a crackling nois e i n th e bracke n behin dhim, and ou t ca<strong>me</strong> Pooh ."Good morning , Eeyore, " said Pooh ."Good morning , Poo h Bear, " said Eeyor e gloomily ."If i t is a good morning, " h e said . "Whic h I doubt, "said he ."Why, what's the matter? ""Nothing, Poo h Bear , nothing . W e can't all , an dso<strong>me</strong> o f us don't. That's al l there i s <strong>to</strong> it ."Can't al l ivhatT' said Pooh, rubbing hi s nose ."Gaiety. Song-and-dance . Her e w e go roun d th emulberry bush." 23Eeyore continue d hi s la<strong>me</strong>nt an d finall y admitted tha tnobody ha d re<strong>me</strong>mbere d hi s birthday. To compensate, th e don -key threw a pit y part y b y himself. Poo h Bear , i n turn , trie d t omake th e donkey happy .The s<strong>to</strong>r y struck a n uneas y chord .Lately, I had bee n feelin g sorry for myself . Well, more lik ewallowing i n self-pity . Lif e was tumbling an d I had bee n grum -bling throug h th e days , blaming myself , pointing ou t m y faults,and insistin g thing s couldn't possibl y get better. ( I had eve n com -plained tha t so<strong>me</strong> friends had forgotte n m y birthday! )I had bee n a real Eeyore .The simpl e s<strong>to</strong>r y convicted <strong>me</strong> . And onc e again , Go d use dan as s <strong>to</strong> speak t o a stubborn child . (Se e Balaa m an d hi s donke yin Numbers 22:21-34. )df-pity smacks wit h ugliness . It' s demanding an d self -obsessed. I t sap s ou r spiri t an d relationships . Bu t it' stempting, particularl y when deeply-roote d problem s don't wan t<strong>to</strong> budge .When there' s proo f tha t we'r e pathetic , it' s a ripe tim e t ogrovel abou t ourselves . Instead , Go d want s u s t o giv e thanks ."Always b e joyful. Pra y continually, an d giv e thank s whateve r
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