Lord, please help me to change - Judith Couchman

LIVING I N LOU DDESPERATIONWhen used wisely, anger canfacilitate the change process.he mas s o f me n lea d live s o f quiet desperation, " sai dHenry Thoreau whe n h e retreate d t o th e woods an dWalden Pond. 20Not so for everybody, say s my friend Ellen ."I liv e m y life in lou d desperation, " sh e explains , referrin gto the incessan t persona l problem s she' s endured—and ho wvocal she's gotten abou t her pai n an d anger .1 love and respec t tha t about Ellen . She's always honest abou twhat she's thinking and feeling , even i f it's difficult for her t o sa y it.I'm sur e Ellen's therapist love s that about her , too . It' s prob -ably not necessar y t o coax out he r feeling s and opinion s during acounseling session . I imagine the y pull up chairs , sea t themselves ,and clamor for attention whe n th e appointment begins . Faithfully,they've helped Elle n maneuve r th e change process .A counselor onc e tol d me , "Sinc e healin g depends o n hon -esty, it's much easie r working with people who spil l their emotion severywhere tha n spendin g week s and month s gettin g the m t oopen up. "That counselor would hav e loved Ellen .56'