January 2017
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HEALTH<br />
ADJUSTING TO<br />
by Michele Jacobson, L.M.H.C.<br />
Change is a fact of life. At home, at work,<br />
and in the world around us, the one<br />
thing we can always count on is that<br />
things will change. We celebrate changes that<br />
bring us pleasure, such as births and weddings. Yet, many of<br />
life’s changes are difficult: a job loss, a divorce, or a death in the<br />
family. These situations teach us lessons that success never<br />
can, exposing us to loss and acceptance. As a result, we often<br />
discover our own unexpected strengths, talents, and resources.<br />
Change provides us with opportunities to re-define our lives,<br />
jobs, and relationships in new and creative ways and the ability<br />
for true growth.<br />
To deal effectively with change it is important to<br />
realize that every change in our lives involves a<br />
period of transition. Before you can experience<br />
new beginnings, a person must go through an<br />
ending and discomfort for the in-between time.<br />
The best way to prepare yourself for change is to become<br />
comfortable with the process, so you can develop better coping<br />
strategies to help you be successful in your life change.<br />
Initially, people can expect to have confusion, uncertainty, or<br />
fear about what the future holds. During this stage of change,<br />
remind yourself that change is a natural part of life. Create “todo”<br />
lists to keep goals clear and review your list weekly.<br />
In the next stage, the significance of the change is downplayed.<br />
You tell others you are doing fine, and that the change is “no big<br />
deal”. To lower the impact during this time, tell yourself the truth<br />
about what is happening, and list the gains and losses that have<br />
resulted from the change in your life. Above all, allow yourself to<br />
be sad about the change. A good cry can be cathartic during<br />
this time.<br />
Many individuals find the third stage to be the lowest point in<br />
a transition. You may feel some anger, discouragement, and<br />
resentment. To help yourself, don’t be afraid to experience your<br />
feelings and acknowledge them. Create and surround yourself<br />
with a good support system of encouraging friends and family.<br />
Develop a positive vision of what your life will be like when you<br />
have finished this transition, and think of it daily.<br />
This next stage is all about letting go of the past. Until now you<br />
probably have focused on the way things used to be. Now you<br />
are ready to accept the change and start preparing for your<br />
future. To do this effectively, rip up your losses and tape your list<br />
of gains someplace you will see it often. Prepare with a positive<br />
attitude, new skills, and any other resources you feel can be<br />
helpful and help you move forward. Take care of yourself. Look<br />
for opportunities to celebrate the small successes.<br />
During the fifth stage, the sadness has been decreased and<br />
you begin to feel more energetic. This is the time to seek new<br />
experiences, volunteer, take up a new hobby, or enroll in a class<br />
you have always wanted to take. Find ways to use the skills you<br />
have gained. Spend time with people who have experienced<br />
similar changes and continue to surround yourself with a strong<br />
support network.<br />
The final stage is how to make the most of change. Now is the<br />
time to complete a review by looking back on the discomfort the<br />
change produced, and what you have learned along the way.<br />
Uncertainty<br />
has been<br />
replaced with<br />
possibilities.<br />
Change has<br />
now become<br />
a natural part<br />
of your life<br />
that can be<br />
embraced<br />
by keeping<br />
a positive<br />
attitude,<br />
focusing on<br />
the new you<br />
and striving<br />
to continue to<br />
accept, adjust,<br />
and achieve.<br />
Michele Jacobson, L.M.H.C. has more than 17 years of clinical<br />
experience providing counseling with individuals, children and<br />
families. She is available for in- home or office based services<br />
and can be reached at 954-401-6173.<br />
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JANUARY <strong>2017</strong>