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love iraqi style<br />
Weddings from the homeland can be elaborate affairs<br />
BY VANESSA DENHA-GARMO<br />
Awedding is a wedding? So you think.<br />
In Iraq, not only is how the couples<br />
happen to marry an untold story, but<br />
each celebration plays out in its own<br />
special way.<br />
“There is not much difference in the<br />
actual liturgy in Iraq opposed to here in<br />
America,” said Fr. Manuel Boji. “However,<br />
the celebration can last for days there.<br />
Sometimes they go for a week.” Each day<br />
of celebrations vary in tradition and flare.<br />
In some traditional weddings, more<br />
common a generation ago, the entire<br />
event would last days – starting out with a<br />
proposal, Chaldean style. A few people<br />
from the groom’s family would go the girl’s<br />
home and ask for her hand in marriage. If<br />
the girl’s family agrees, the groom’s family<br />
claps and halholes.<br />
Next, a priest would bless the engagement.<br />
In some villages years ago, only the<br />
groom’s family would celebrate while for<br />
the bride’s family it was almost a time of<br />
sadness because they were losing a daughter.<br />
After the engagement, a date was set<br />
for the actual nuptials — often just days<br />
after the couple engaged.<br />
The preparations began. Women of the homes<br />
would prepare the wedding; they sewed colorful<br />
cloths at home and wore only their best garments<br />
and jewelry. One of the celebratory days before the<br />
actual exchange of vows was loukma (bread) day.<br />
They would bake bread and gather family and friends<br />
to enjoy. The bread was a pizza-size flat loaf flavored<br />
Karim and Najat Dado, 1973<br />
with sesame and other seasonings. While it baked,<br />
the women sang songs, halholed and rejoiced.<br />
The day of the henna (dying of the hands)<br />
would occur a day or two before the actual wedding.<br />
It is a sign of making the wedding colorful and joyful<br />
— dressing up the day. Family members put<br />
henna in the palm of their hands, then wrap the<br />
hand in a cloth and go to sleep, awaking<br />
with a colorful design. The grooms’ family<br />
visited the bride’s home with henna and<br />
candy. The bride would get the henna first<br />
and the entire groom’s family would also<br />
get the henna, but not the brides’ family.<br />
In some towns some families would take<br />
dolma (stuffed grape leaves) to the henna.<br />
The night before the wedding, families<br />
would sing, drink and enjoy mezza (light<br />
appetizers) and arak (liquor). In the morning,<br />
entire towns sometimes went to the<br />
mass. On some occasions, only a few members<br />
of the bride’s family attended the mass.<br />
After that, all the guests would lead the<br />
bride and groom around town with musicians<br />
playing tabul (drums). They’d even<br />
venture to the outskirts of town, landing in<br />
a big field where they sang and danced.<br />
In the evening, all returned home to<br />
eat, drink and have mezza. The celebration<br />
continued to the next morning. The<br />
next day, close friends and family members<br />
of the groom took food to his family<br />
to continue the celebrations. All day, they<br />
sang, danced, drank and rejoiced. This<br />
continued to the third day; finally by that<br />
night the wedding celebrations wound down.<br />
Exhausted and overjoyed, life then began for the<br />
married couple.<br />
Here’s a glance at four weddings from the homeland.<br />
LOVE IRAQI STYLE<br />
Continued on page 46<br />
the wedding guide<br />
“THE LOVE WE GIVE AWAY IS THE ONLY LOVE WE KEEP.”<br />
– ELBERT HUBBARD<br />
44 CHALDEAN NEWS <strong>MARCH</strong> <strong>2008</strong>