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SHAAREI TIKVAH/ CHANUKAH <strong>2009</strong><br />
After many years of enduring different treatments and testing,<br />
we decided that a new approach was needed.<br />
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about it. With this realization came confusion and the feeling<br />
of isolation. We felt so alone.<br />
And so, we embarked upon our journey into the unknown.<br />
Our path led us through difficult and treacherous<br />
topography, its valleys as deep and dark as its mountains<br />
were high and exhilarating. There was no clear map for us<br />
to follow and our journey led us to many different cities in<br />
pursuit of our goal.<br />
After many years of enduring different treatments and<br />
testing, we decided that a new approach was needed. To<br />
that end, we decided to ask a Rov if a particular form of<br />
spiritual effort would be a good idea. He wasn’t keen on<br />
our idea but did send us to Israel to daven at the gravesite<br />
of R’ Shimon Bar Yochai. He encouraged us to daven that<br />
we should merit children and that we should name our<br />
miracle son Shimon after this great Tanna.<br />
Calling the travel agent and booking the last tickets<br />
available on the plane, changing our summer plans and<br />
packing, kept us busy for the next few days until we set of<br />
in earnest. Armed with our Tehillim and a sense of mission<br />
we went to fulfill our assignment. All in all, we were in Israel<br />
for three days. The first day, we went to the Kosel and davened.<br />
The second day we got up at the crack of dawn and<br />
drove to Meron. Although the day was hot, inside the<br />
building the air was cool. Tears welled up in my throat as I<br />
became conscious of how much depended on my prayers<br />
in this place. I sobbed as never before and poured my heart<br />
out in prayer. I felt at one with all the people who had shed<br />
tears at this holy site.<br />
From Meron, we went up the narrow, winding roads to<br />
Tzefat, to daven there at the ancient burial ground of some<br />
of our most famous Tzaddikim. Once again, my wife and I<br />
felt overwhelmed by emotion as we stood at these holy<br />
sites. Again and again, we begged Hashem to give us children,<br />
to allow us the privilege of becoming parents. Tears<br />
that we had stored for years now found an escape through<br />
our heartfelt prayers. We davened here not only for ourselves,<br />
but also for couples we knew, for those who have<br />
been on this difficult journey for longer than we have and<br />
for those who unfortunately were just starting. We prayed<br />
that all our tefillos should be answered.<br />
On the third day of our trip, we were utterly exhausted.<br />
All we could do was relax in the flat in which we were staying<br />
and try to appreciate the atmosphere of Eretz Yisroel.<br />
Returning home, we tried to carry on our lives as before.<br />
Did we have children nine months later, or even within a<br />
year? The answer to that is no. But we did implement<br />
some major life changes, especially in the realms of infertility.<br />
After spending many years at our local clinic, we were<br />
advised to move to a new location. Anyone who has been<br />
in this position will know that one doesn’t change clinics<br />
easily. After all, this clinic knew our history, and just as importantly,<br />
we knew them. My wife knew which nurse<br />
would smile at her despite the early morning rush, she<br />
knew which of the sonographers were more competent,<br />
and we were comfortable with the system. Starting in a<br />
new clinic would be a scary proposition. But clearly, it was<br />
time to move on.<br />
Our evenings became intense and pressured. I continued<br />
my evening learning program whilst my wife had to<br />
prepare for teaching the next day, do a myriad of other<br />
household tasks that never seemed to get finished, pack<br />
up breakfast for the early morning trip, fit in her injections<br />
and make sure to go to bed early. We would have to be up<br />
at four thirty the next morning in order to be at the clinic<br />
for scanning and blood tests.<br />
We did the early morning clinic trips for almost ten<br />
months. We traveled on dark rainy mornings and through<br />
glorious sunrises. We drove and drove. We made a routine<br />
for ourselves and it became familiar. We made sure that<br />
our journeys were productive – even if the outcome of our<br />
trips was not. We listened to shiurim and talked about<br />
things that we never seemed to have time for before. My<br />
wife decided that even if she was not used to being a<br />
‘morning person,’ these are times when you have to change<br />
and be in a good mood because grumpiness would only<br />
have increased the difficulty. Shabbos and Yomim Tovim,<br />
guests and work – all scheduled around cycles at the clinic.<br />
Phone calls and injections, blood test and treatments became<br />
part or our private lives that no one had any idea