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Chizuk<br />
SHAAREI TIKVAH/ CHANUKAH <strong>2009</strong><br />
several earlier <strong>Chanukah</strong>s how difficult it was for me to be<br />
part of a child-blessed family with empty arms of my own,<br />
my in-laws devised this clever tactic to accomplish both<br />
sides of their complicated tasks; to be devoted grandparents<br />
to their fast multiplying brood<br />
while not stepping on the painful<br />
bunion on my toe.<br />
There were some <strong>Chanukah</strong>s where<br />
the conversations were so one track<br />
minded and too boring-slashuncomfortable<br />
for me to be around. At<br />
such times I would simply leave the dining<br />
room where the adults were chattering<br />
and singing, and joined the very<br />
children whose presence were tugging<br />
at my heart. There, I became a kid<br />
again, dancing and singing and swinging<br />
and conversing with anyone age twelve<br />
and down. I felt important; I felt<br />
needed; I was the aunt who lowered<br />
herself to their level, instead of the parent<br />
who was glad she was getting a<br />
break.<br />
In another attempt to feel involved<br />
in the party, I was usually unofficially in<br />
charge of the evening's entertainment.<br />
It was no easy feat. Eventually after<br />
much brain-wracking I would manage<br />
to come up with some form of madlibs or guess-the-name<br />
picture game with computer printouts.<br />
Oddly enough, at my parents' home, I felt quite the opposite.<br />
The grandchildren on my side of the family, in those<br />
Suddenly the<br />
topics of conversation<br />
were<br />
bearable,<br />
productive, and<br />
riveting. Everyone<br />
was in on<br />
the "in" jokes, no<br />
one had their<br />
midsection<br />
stared at<br />
days, could be counted on the fingers of one hand. It was<br />
not necessary to make a grand production of hiding the<br />
gifts, since there were so few gifts. One year I devised a plan<br />
of my own to feel more involved: I purchased inexpensive<br />
trinkets and gave my nieces and<br />
nephews little present of my own. Unfortunately<br />
some of them feel flat, as I<br />
wasn't all that up to speed on the fads of<br />
the current generation, and many a<br />
niece pouted at the "worthless" gadgets<br />
she had gotten….<br />
After all was said and done, and I had<br />
survived the family parties intact, there<br />
was one more beacon of light beckoning<br />
in the distance, a thin thread of rope to<br />
hang onto. A brave A T.I.M.E. soul quietly<br />
scheduled a <strong>Chanukah</strong> gathering at<br />
the home of the compatriot. A bunch of<br />
us got together, and there we sang,<br />
played fun games, and kidded around.<br />
Suddenly the topics of conversation<br />
were bearable, productive, and riveting.<br />
Everyone was in on the "in" jokes, no one<br />
had their midsection stared at, and all of<br />
us were equally successfully putting our<br />
pain aside for one night. It was<br />
<strong>Chanukah</strong> after all, and the candles were<br />
flickering brightly. Thank you A TIME<br />
for making <strong>Chanukah</strong> easier on all of us and always being<br />
there when we need a place to call home.<br />
May we all be zocheh to see light, and may this year be<br />
the easiest <strong>Chanukah</strong> ever for all of us!<br />
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