a guide to supporting children exposed to domestic violence
a guide to supporting children exposed to domestic violence
a guide to supporting children exposed to domestic violence
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Len’s s<strong>to</strong>ry<br />
Len was terrified when his father began <strong>to</strong> hit his mother. He tried <strong>to</strong> step between<br />
them, but his father yelled at him <strong>to</strong> go upstairs.<br />
Len did what he was <strong>to</strong>ld, but he could hear his mother sobbing and begging his<br />
father <strong>to</strong> s<strong>to</strong>p. Later his father dragged Len out from under his bed and <strong>to</strong>ld him,<br />
“It’s all your fault; that’s why we were fighting; you didn’t do your homework.”<br />
Children learn many things by watching their parents. These include<br />
communicating feelings, solving problems, coping with frustration, being<br />
respectful, and having consideration for others.<br />
Although some <strong>children</strong> in violent homes appear unaffected by the <strong>violence</strong> and<br />
have no mental health problems, their experiences may influence their beliefs and<br />
attitudes.<br />
When <strong>children</strong> see their mother being abused<br />
They may learn that:<br />
• It’s OK <strong>to</strong> use <strong>violence</strong>.<br />
• Violence is a way <strong>to</strong> get what you want.<br />
• Violence is a way <strong>to</strong> solve problems.<br />
• You can gain power and control over others by using <strong>violence</strong>.<br />
• Abuse is a normal part of relationships.<br />
• Any distressing feeling can be expressed as <strong>violence</strong>.<br />
• Men are more important and more powerful than women.<br />
• Women don’t deserve respect.<br />
Children who are <strong>exposed</strong> <strong>to</strong> abuse may be more likely <strong>to</strong> be abusive or abused<br />
when they are adults.<br />
The effect on a child depends on:<br />
• the severity of the abuse<br />
• how often it happens<br />
• how long it has gone on<br />
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