a guide to supporting children exposed to domestic violence

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9 Resources Safety plan 63 My personal safety plan 63 What I can do before a violent incident 63 What I can do during a violent incident 64 My children’s safety 65 What I can do when I am living in a new place 67 Safety in my neighbourhood 68 How I can increase my safety at work 69 Taking care of my emotional well-being 69 Safety for women in special circumstances (rural women, women with disabilities, immigrant women) 70 Resources for children and teens 72 Workbooks for kids 72 Books for kids – available from most libraries 72 Websites for children and teenagers 74 HELPING MY CHILD A GUIDE TO SUPPORTING CHILDREN EXPOSED TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 6
Welcome This guide is for mothers who are targets of violence in a relationship. Our goal is to support you so that you can support your children. Although there are some references to teens, the guide is directed, in particular, to children of 12 years and younger. Some parts of the guide may also be useful to other caregivers, such as stepparents, foster parents, or male caregivers who have been abused by their partner. The guide may also help in the care and support of children who have been abused but have not been exposed to partner violence. This guide is the first of a three-part series intended to help mothers, caregivers, and service providers support children who are living with, or have lived with, domestic violence. Many of these children are living with their mothers. The mothers have been, or are being, abused by their partners. We will focus on your well-being and safety We want to offer ideas on how to care for and support children who are aware of the abuse and may have been abused themselves. • If you are a mother of children exposed to violence in the home, your own safety and comfort is essential for the security and happiness of your child or children. • Although your children’s needs are different from your own, your children’s wellbeing is affected if the home is unsafe, or if there is much tension and distress. • Looking after yourself helps you look after your children’s needs too. What you find in this guide • First, this guide looks at what abuse is and what impact it has on mothers and children. • Second, the guide looks at what you can do to keep yourself safe and help your children. • The guide provides useful resources for support and information. Remember: You do not have to do everything at once. Take it one step at a time. The fact that you are working on safety for yourself and your children is a sign of your courage and strength. HELPING MY CHILD A GUIDE TO SUPPORTING CHILDREN EXPOSED TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 7
Page 1 and 2: HELPING MY CHILD a guide to support
Page 3 and 4: Contents Welcome We will focus on y
Page 5: 7 Getting help for you and your chi
Page 9 and 10: • controlling all money and purch
Page 11 and 12: Many women describe the so-called h
Page 13 and 14: 3 How violence hurts children THIS
Page 15 and 16: Charlene’s story Charlene’s fat
Page 17 and 18: Tommy’s story Tommy clung to his
Page 19 and 20: Johnny’s story Mrs. T., the grade
Page 21 and 22: When a woman is being abused and ha
Page 23 and 24: 4 Protecting yourself and your chil
Page 25 and 26: • If you start looking for helpfu
Page 27 and 28: • If you decide to leave your hus
Page 29 and 30: ◗ ◗ ◗ Telephone: 604-874-1831
Page 31 and 32: • You may have pooled your earnin
Page 33 and 34: ◗ ◗ Refuse to pay child support
Page 35 and 36: • My behaviour was not OK. Violen
Page 37 and 38: Roseanna‘s story Shortly after Ro
Page 39 and 40: CHILDREN NEED GUIDANCE This include
Page 41 and 42: Here are some basic principles of w
Page 43 and 44: • If they continue to hit/swear,
Page 45 and 46: may be multicultural programs, and
Page 47 and 48: • working on the after-effects of
Page 49 and 50: COUNSELLING FOR CHILDREN WITH MENTA
Page 51 and 52: Getting help from your child’s sc
Page 53 and 54: PEACE BOND If the abuser has not be
Page 55 and 56: IF: • You cannot represent yourse
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Western Canada Society to Access Ju
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• There are many programs for imm
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Using the Internet to get informati
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9 Resources Safety Plan Making a sa
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• I trust _______________________
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• I can also tell my children abo
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How I can increase my safety at wor
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• I can ask _____________________
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Clover’s Secret. In this fantasy
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