a guide to supporting children exposed to domestic violence

4 Protecting yourself and your children
Your safety: always the first priority 23
You’ve decided you want to leave. What are the obstacles 24
If you have a disability 25
If you are an immigrant or member of a visible minority group 25
If you are a landed immigrant, sponsored by your husband 26
If you are not a Canadian citizen and not a landed immigrant 27
If you are an aboriginal woman 27
If you live in a rural area 29
If you are poor/on social assistance (welfare) 30
If you are in a same-sex relationship 30
Stress management and self-care 31
Taking legal action 32
If you leave a violent relationship 32
5 What children need to know
It is important to talk with the children 34
What you can say 34
What your partner can say 34
What if the abuser won’t talk to the children like this 35
6 Living with children exposed to violence in their home
You can have a positive influence 36
Can parents help their children grow up without emotional problems 37
Children need affection 37
Children need stability 38
Children need guidance 39
Children need to be safe and protected 40
Children need stimulation to learn 41
Dealing with children’s anger 42
Teach your children how to manage their anger 43
HELPING MY CHILD A GUIDE TO SUPPORTING CHILDREN EXPOSED TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE 4