HEALTHY FAMILIES FOR ETERNITY
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Dedication is like an internalized commitment<br />
to a project or a person. It expresses a person’s<br />
greatest desire and interest in making sure<br />
that something happens. On the other<br />
hand, constraint is more like an obligation<br />
to do something that left undone would<br />
be catastrophic. While dedication is like an<br />
influence compelling you to go forward,<br />
constraint is like a power pushing you from<br />
behind.<br />
Dedication is operative in the Apostle Paul’s<br />
description of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,<br />
declaring:<br />
“Love is patient, love is kind. It<br />
does not envy, it does not boast, it<br />
is not proud. It does not dishonor<br />
others…it is not easily angered,<br />
it keeps no record of wrongs.<br />
Love does not delight in evil but<br />
rejoices with the truth. It always<br />
protects, always trusts, always<br />
hopes, always perseveres. Love never<br />
fails…” (NIV)<br />
Every marriage relationship needs both<br />
dedication and constraint commitment;<br />
the higher the level of dedication in the<br />
relationship, the higher the level of satisfaction<br />
will be as well. In those moments when<br />
dedication is low, constraint commitment will<br />
enable couples to make it through the dark<br />
valleys that often affect marriage relationships.<br />
However, each person in the marriage needs<br />
to be committed to regaining dedication<br />
commitment as quickly as possible, so that<br />
marriage can be, as Ellen White suggests, “a<br />
little heaven upon earth…” 4<br />
Conclusion<br />
We both enjoy food! And while we are<br />
intentional about being temperate not only<br />
about what we eat, but how much we eat,<br />
it is also true that we relish certain foods<br />
more than others and eat them with greater<br />
frequency.<br />
Deciding where we will eat—what kind<br />
of food that is—after being on the road<br />
for several days and finally getting home,<br />
determines to a great extent the quality of our<br />
marriage at that particular time. This is the test,<br />
to a great extent, how well we are practicing<br />
what we preach and how close to Jesus we have<br />
remained.<br />
The truth is, Christian marriage can only<br />
be Christian when like true disciples we take<br />
up our cross and follow Jesus in self-denial,<br />
self-sacrifice, and being like Him in every way.<br />
Being baptized church members is not enough<br />
to keep our marriage healthy and strong.<br />
Understanding that to be a disciple means you<br />
have signed up to serve rather than to be served;<br />
and you are looking for what you can give rather<br />
than what you can get, is the secret to having a<br />
marriage filled with dedication commitment, that<br />
represents Jesus Christ without shame.<br />
A crisis in marriage means there is a spiritual<br />
crisis, regardless of how many Bible studies you<br />
are involved in or how many people you are<br />
leading to baptism. However, when you see your<br />
marriage in the light of the cross, you willingly<br />
take it up in Christ-like fashion, then you will<br />
experience the joy that comes from trusting Jesus<br />
to do for you what you cannot do for yourself.<br />
This is the kind of marriage that becomes salvific<br />
to your spouse, to your children, and to everyone<br />
who is within your circle of influence.<br />
As you purpose in your heart to take up your<br />
cross today, it is our prayer that your marriage<br />
will experience the transformational power that<br />
brings joy, peace and love. In the words of John<br />
Hugh McNaughton’s (1829-1891) song,<br />
Love at Home<br />
In the cottage there is joy,<br />
When there’s love at home;<br />
Hate and envy ne’er annoy,<br />
When there’s love at home;<br />
Roses bloom beneath our feet,<br />
All the earth’s a garden sweet,<br />
Making life a bliss complete,<br />
When there is love at home.<br />
Love becomes a way of life,<br />
When there’s love at home;<br />
SERMON<br />
11<br />
CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE AND THE CROSS