HEALTHY FAMILIES FOR ETERNITY
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<strong>HEALTHY</strong> <strong>FAMILIES</strong> <strong>FOR</strong> <strong>ETERNITY</strong> REACH THE WORLD<br />
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understood. 5 The Bible affirms this concept<br />
by declaring in James 1:19: “This you know,<br />
my beloved brethren. But everyone must be<br />
quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger”<br />
(NASB). The truth is that we will be able to<br />
hear and understand another human being,<br />
particularly members of our family, only when<br />
we apply this verse to heart.<br />
In addition to speaking kindly in our<br />
families, becoming good listeners is a<br />
wonderful and essential quality for superior<br />
family relationships. Most difficulties in the<br />
family will worsen when we fail to listen to<br />
each other. And that includes parents listening<br />
to their children. As you can see, the Bible<br />
text shared above states that “everyone must<br />
be quick to hear.” Everyone includes parents,<br />
husbands, wives, and whoever else is a part of<br />
a household. Failure to listen leads to lack of<br />
understanding and alienation. Listening to our<br />
spouse, and especially our children and other<br />
family members, will convey attention, respect,<br />
regard, and deep love to them. Scripture<br />
observes, “love will cover a multitude of sins”<br />
(1 Peter 4:8, NKJV).<br />
To be able to live happy lives (a prerequisite<br />
to being most productive), it is crucial to be<br />
proactive-which means living within our circle<br />
of control. Rather than being reactive-in which<br />
we simply respond in conversation based on<br />
our emotions or by the first thing that naturally<br />
comes out of our mouths-we pause (pray),<br />
think, and carefully choose a reply that takes<br />
into consideration the future viability of our<br />
family relationships. On this note Ellen White<br />
declares: “If impatient words are spoken to you,<br />
never reply in the same spirit”. 6<br />
Leadership has its privileges and challenges.<br />
One of the most significant trials-yet<br />
simultaneously an immense honor-is to have a<br />
family. We know there are no perfect families,<br />
because there are no perfect people. Still, it<br />
is our responsibility to understand the place<br />
our families must have in the hierarchy of our<br />
priorities and be faithful to that privilege even<br />
more so than to our passion for the leadership<br />
role that God has called us to.<br />
Be of good courage and make the paradigm<br />
shift to see your family members differently,<br />
so that your behavior toward them will be<br />
transformed and you will get a superior response<br />
that will expand your leadership capacity.<br />
Notes<br />
1<br />
Ellen G. White, Gospel Workers, p. 204<br />
2<br />
Ellen G. White, The Adventist Home, (Nashville:<br />
Southern Pub. Assn., 1952) p. 32.<br />
3<br />
Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective<br />
Families (New York: Golden Books, 1997), p. 115.<br />
4<br />
Howard J Markman, Scott M. Stanley, and Susan<br />
L. Blumberg, Fighting for your Marriage (San<br />
Francisco: Jossey0Bass, 2001), p. 4.<br />
5<br />
Mark and Debra Laaser, The Seven Secrets of Every<br />
Heart (Grand Rapids: Zonderman Pub. House,<br />
2008, p. 15).<br />
6<br />
Ellen G. White, The Ministry of Healing, p. 486.<br />
Esmond, D. (Ed.). (2013). Extract from As I Follow Christ. 20 Essentials Every Leader Should Know. The Leader’s Family. (pp. 33-38).<br />
Review and Herald, 2013. Reprinted with permission.