HEALTHY FAMILIES FOR ETERNITY
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<strong>HEALTHY</strong> <strong>FAMILIES</strong> <strong>FOR</strong> <strong>ETERNITY</strong> REACH THE WORLD<br />
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differently, looking sad, struggling, becoming irritable, or<br />
behaving in ways that are causing you concern. It may be<br />
enough to notice, listen, care, support and help them to<br />
experience more positive emotions. But if you become<br />
increasingly concerned, or if they remain sad or stressed<br />
for more than a few days, it’s important to seek help from<br />
your doctor, a counselor, a guidance teacher, pastor, etc.<br />
Nurturing positive emotions<br />
Model happiness<br />
Show your child how to enjoy positive emotions by the<br />
way you live and speak and act. Express your thankfulness,<br />
look for the positive things in life, laugh and smile; take<br />
time out to calm down and recharge your energies, talk<br />
about your faith in positive and hopeful ways, share<br />
answers to prayer, be kind to others, share moments of<br />
wonder. Discover what nurtures your positive emotions,<br />
blend them into your life, and they will naturally spill over<br />
into the lives of your children and become part of their<br />
lives and attitudes.<br />
Variety<br />
Give plenty of opportunities for yourself and your<br />
children to discover what nurtures each of your positive<br />
emotions. Everyone is different, and they need to explore<br />
a wide range of activities and hobbies to find what they<br />
enjoy the most and to discover their own unique gifts and<br />
talents. Help each person find the activities that inspire<br />
him or her and make them feel peaceful, loved, hopeful<br />
and happy.<br />
Be kind<br />
One of the best ‘medicines’ for depression is to make<br />
other people feel happy too. Help your child think of<br />
different ways they can be kind at home, at school, at<br />
church and within your local community. When they<br />
have kind ideas, help them put their ideas into action.<br />
(Luke 6:35).<br />
Laughter<br />
A cheerful heart is good medicine. (Proverbs 17:22).<br />
Laughter also opens our minds to new possibilities. So<br />
having fun helps our brains to learn more easily, to find<br />
creative solutions to our problems, to make friends, to<br />
create a happier life, and to build our resilience. Find out<br />
what makes each person in your family laugh, and get him<br />
or her laughing before you help them to learn something<br />
new, or before they leave the house in the morning. Create<br />
your own crazy, funny rituals to help distract each other<br />
from difficult feelings.<br />
Happy memories<br />
Encourage your friends and family to remember<br />
happy times. Make the most of your happy memories<br />
by making photo albums, looking at photos together,<br />
making memory jars filled with things collected during<br />
a vacation, drawing pictures about happy times, writing<br />
stories about them, or creating a positive journal of happy<br />
memories. Happy memories can help us through sadder<br />
times. Thank God for the happy memories. (Psalm 105).<br />
Peace and quiet<br />
Help everyone in your family find some quiet space<br />
and time where they can be still and think. Lives can be<br />
very busy today and we all need space to recover by finding<br />
a quiet place to pray and reflect on feelings and experiences.<br />
It can even help to plan a quiet time for everyone in the<br />
house. Perhaps it can be before or after family worship.<br />
Try to have one place in your home where you can sit and<br />
be still without being distracted by the media, or things<br />
that need to be tidied. Play soothing music, give each other<br />
hand or back massages, or even blow bubbles, because<br />
breathing in deeply, and blowing out slowly helps to relax<br />
the body, and bubbles tend to fill us with a few moments<br />
of wonder and playfulness too. (Psalm 46:10).<br />
Be grateful<br />
Nurture thankfulness in yourself and your child. Find<br />
things to be thankful for as often as you can. You can<br />
look for things to be thankful as you drive or walk<br />
along the road, as you move from room to room in<br />
your home, as you think back on the day, or when you<br />
sit down to each together. Encourage children to say<br />
thank you as often as possible, to write thank you notes,<br />
and to make thank you cards for people. Try to thank<br />
one new person a week. Maybe it’s the neighbor who<br />
has planted a lovely flower garden, or the nurse in the<br />
doctor’s surgery, or the person who picks up the litter<br />
down your street. (Psalm 107:1).<br />
Choose to be inspired<br />
Inspire yourself and your children by reading<br />
biographies or watching documentaries about inspiring<br />
people, such as David Livingstone, Dr. Ben Carson,<br />
and other famous missionaries, leaders, or people who<br />
overcame incredible challenges. If possible, take your<br />
children to concerts, science festivals, art galleries, and<br />
other places where they can be inspired by great human<br />
achievements. Study and explore the lives of great<br />
people in the Bible. Make this fun and creative and<br />
look for the faith and character strengths that enable<br />
God to use these people in amazing ways. (Hebrews 11).