Group Analytic Contexts, Issue 77, September 2017
Newsletter of the Group Analytic Society International
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14 <strong>Group</strong>-<strong>Analytic</strong> Society International - <strong>Contexts</strong><br />
Europe in my twenties. Here I found group analysis and was able to<br />
join up the many threads that had been broken.<br />
A more or less constant psychic distance from the past was<br />
maintained until my parents’ imminent death. As they faded away a<br />
delicate balance in the family system was disrupted. Relationships<br />
with my siblings deteriorated abruptly and dramatically. Any trust<br />
that had been there disappeared. I was told, “You have a personality<br />
like Hitler!” Feeling dizzy, headachy, unable to sleep or dream, yet<br />
struggling to keep thinking, I kept reminding myself that this must be<br />
the traumatic past bursting through but I could not make any more<br />
sense of it than that.<br />
Remnants from the First World War<br />
My parents were both born in the aftermath of the First World War. It<br />
left an indelible mark on both of them. Their parents, my<br />
grandparents, lived in three countries at war with each other: England,<br />
Germany and Austria. They were also of different religion; Catholics,<br />
Jews, Protestants; and class; aristocrats, professionals.<br />
My mother’s start in the world was overshadowed by loss.<br />
Her father’s adored eldest brother, a ‘heroic’ captain in the Queen’s<br />
regiment, was killed at the Battle of the Somme in August 1916. His<br />
body was never found but I always remember the presence of his<br />
disappearance. My mother, born barely 18 months later, was my<br />
grandparents’ first child. Unconsciously wanting to fill the hole of<br />
loss they had hoped for a boy. Of course my mother did not feel<br />
welcomed into the world and always resented the attention bestowed<br />
on boys. As a child, I could never understand why she was not<br />
motherly like other mothers and interested in things feminine.<br />
My father too had an uneasy start in the world. He was born<br />
in Berlin into the contradictory atmosphere of the Weimar Republic,<br />
a nation struggling to manage the humiliation meted out by the Treaty<br />
of Versailles. My grandmother was Jewish and my grandfather<br />
Catholic turned Protestant. They divorced when my father was two<br />
and he became the only child of a single mother. My grandfather died<br />
when my father was barely ten so he never knew his father’s family<br />
until an adult despite paradoxically carrying their unusual name, von<br />
Sommaruga.<br />
Remnants of the Second World War<br />
My mother, a sheltered Hampstead girl and my father, a ‘homeless’<br />
refugee, found each other in my great uncle’s Jungian Study <strong>Group</strong>.<br />
Their budding relationship was rudely interrupted after the fall of