The Man God Has For You by Stephan Labossiere

Let’s use the woman from the scenario above.
Let’s say the woman said something disrespectful to her
boyfriend in the heat of an argument. He let her know how this
affects him, how it makes him feel.
She apologizes, recognizes that it’s an issue; however,
somewhere down the line, she gets upset and does it again. It
is possible for the second time to be a mistake because she
may have lost her composure and it happened, still, she’s
genuinely trying to work on it and has shown an effort.
This same principle can apply to a man.
It is possible he did it once and it was a mistake.
He acknowledged it, he’s worked on it, you saw progress,
he had a moment, but he’s back on track.
Notice I said: he acknowledged it. If a person does not
acknowledge what they did, if they do not take ownership of
it, then you’re not dealing with a mistake–it’s a real issue. It’s
a much bigger problem because nothing can be fixed if that
person sees no wrong in what they did and tries to defend,
validate or excuse it. It’s a clear indication that it will, without
a doubt, happen again.
If you say to a person what you dislike and all the person
does is make excuses about how you pushed them to that
point, or claim they did it because, “that’s just how they are,”
it’s going to happen again because they don’t see the problem.
There Has to be Genuine Progress
Genuine progress is determined by recognizing the
conscious effort. We know when someone is putting forth the
effort to ensure they respond differently and take a better path
of resolution in those situations. If there’s no effort to make
better choices, or walk a better path, then again it’s not a
mistake but a real issue.
It’s one thing to say, “oh, I’m sorry, my bad, I won’t do it
again,” because I know that you’re upset and it’s an issue I just
want to get under control.
However, that doesn’t mean I understand what I did.