The Man God Has For You by Stephan Labossiere

decides he’s ready for a commitment. I have spoken to so
many women who have this logic and their perception is:
He’s not there yet but I’m going to stay in his life. I’ll
show him the good thing that I am and make sure that
when he finally comes to a place, when he finally evolves
and matures enough to settle down, he will choose me as
the woman to do it with.
That’s a horrible approach.
First off, you’re not a consolation prize. When a man
finally gets to a place where he’s done running around and is
ready to take the woman who’s been there, this does not mean
he’s in love with you. It doesn’t mean he desires to be with
you, please you, or pour into you. He chose you by default,
and I promise I’m not making this up. I’ve had men tell me,
verbatim, they chose their woman by default.
While in the barbershop, a man told me he chose his
WIFE, the woman he married, simply because she was the
one who was around. She was the one that stuck by him. But
guess what? He’s not really in love with her. Lo and behold,
it’s not a surprise they’re having issues. It’s not a surprise that
he’s contemplating leaving. You don’t want him to choose you
because you happen to be there when he decided to wake up.
Second, it’s not likely for him to just wake up one day and
want it. It’s a gradual progression, something he’s thought
about, and may very well think about even when he’s with
you. But again, as
I mentioned previously, his whole “I don’t know what I
want” or “I’m not ready” spiel is just a disguise for I don’t see
YOU as the one. Again this is not to hurt your feelings, it’s to
help you understand that you don’t belong there. And to be
honest, there’s nothing wrong with him not seeing you as the
“one” because he’s not the one for you.
All you need to do is search deep within yourself, go to
God, examine the red flags, and address all the issues to come
to a clear conclusion that he isn’t the guy for you, and you’re
better off walking away.