The Man God Has For You by Stephan Labossiere

I’ll go even further with an analogy.
Let’s say you and this person decide to build a house
together. You show up at the site with the tools and materials,
while he comes through with a drink, a sandwich, and his lawn
chair, then sits there and watches you do the work. This is
happening in so many situations. He’s sitting back and you’re
doing the work.
That’s not building with someone.
Building with someone means you and that person equally
bring something to the table. They match your effort. Where
the dynamic is that you’re more well-off than he, there’s no
reason for him not to pick up the slack in other areas, while
you two are “building” together. He should contribute to the
relationship equally. This doesn’t mean you have to call each
other a certain amount of times per day, or spend this amount
of money on each other, that’s not the case. It means you’re
fulfilled from him, just as he’s fulfilled from you. If you aren’t
content where things are in the relationship, that’s not where
you need to be.
#3 –Don’t Neglect Yourself
The third and key reason why you shouldn’t build a man is
that you stop building yourself. You become so focused on this
man and the energy you’re putting into him, you forget about
you. And you believe that you’re good and you have it
altogether, but you don’t.
Not sorry.
I have to be honest with you, there’s still room for
improvement. There’s still some things you need to learn. You
even entertaining a situation like this indicates corrections that
need to be made, along with the healing and growth that needs
to occur. So while you’re busy pouring into this man, what are
you pouring into you, and are you still connecting with God?
We often become consumed with the person we want to be
with, we don’t realize we’ve put them above God. We’re
worshipping them more than