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he is confronted <strong>with</strong> the problem of the absence of a model for such relationship. The<br />
model of homosexual partner relationship is reconstructed virtually anew every time.<br />
Meanwhile, the attempts to follow traditional heterosexual model by adopting a “male“<br />
and “female“ roles fail <strong>with</strong>out bringing about the desired effect of satisfaction <strong>with</strong><br />
the relationship. These attempts may be related rather to the social pressure and gender<br />
stereotypes embedded in one's conscience. At the same time, today in the framework<br />
of the traditional heterosexual models by far not always one would encounter a strict<br />
division of sexual roles between a passive, soft, caring only for children and home<br />
woman and active, leading and bread-winning man. In some cases, it goes the other way<br />
round, or else the roles overlap. For instance, in one interview for the media a member<br />
of LGBT organization has emphasized: “This is no secret that the traditional model of<br />
family relations today is not always functioning. It is enough to look at the divorce<br />
statistics. And there is no need to make homosexuals replicate this system — on the<br />
contrary, one can learn from us how to build non-stereotypical, flexible and personal<br />
models of relationships, where the place and role of each partner is defined not by the<br />
social prescriptions and a combination of stereotypes, but by the individual preferences<br />
and mutual agreement“.<br />
In building such relationships the partners may benefit from psychological support<br />
whereby the counsellor is helping the couple to work out individual mechanisms of<br />
cooperation in their intimate relationship that would meet the needs of this specific<br />
family/partnership. If the psychologist also has received training in sexology s/he may<br />
help partners in addressing the issues of sexual interaction for the culture of samesex<br />
relationships is not discussed openly many couples lack the basic information and<br />
sexual education in aspects related to same-sex relationships. Since recently, specialists<br />
working <strong>with</strong> homosexuals usually keep available special educational materials on<br />
sexology.<br />
Obviously, the above list of issues on which homosexuals may seek assistance from a<br />
psychologist is neither complete nor final. We have not considered issues of raising<br />
children in same-sex partnerships, issues of elderly homosexuals, issues of additive<br />
behaviour of homosexuals resulting from the experience of being rejected by the society<br />
etc. It is important, however, that the general approach to providing the psychological<br />
support in relation to these issues remains the same and would include the following<br />
main points:<br />
— to conduct analysis of the socio-cultural situation in which the client's<br />
psychological problem has formed and developed;<br />
— to work <strong>with</strong> gender and other social stereotypes of the client;<br />
— to give the client, in the course of counselling interaction, an experience of<br />
acceptance and non-evaluative attitude;<br />
— to raise the client's self-esteem and form a sense of unconditional inherent worth<br />
of one's personality;<br />
— to help form an integral gender and sexual identity of the client;<br />
— to develop the client's capacity and skills to uphold one's life philosophy and<br />
oppose various forms of social pressure.<br />
It is worth noting also that many problems <strong>with</strong> which the homosexuals seek help of<br />
the counselling service are essentially non-specific ones — people of heterosexual<br />
orientation may come <strong>with</strong> similar problems including: difficulties in relations between<br />
the partners, conflicts at home, feelings when leaving one's partner, psychological<br />
difficulties encountered when searching for a partner etc. In these cases, there is no<br />
need to emphasize one's sexual orientation and counselling may go on <strong>with</strong>out any<br />
specific problems.