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“He is the one who supports her in the time
of joy and sorrow (suckh and dukh)”. So
women consider husband as God. The
daughter is sacredly offered by her parents
(kanya daan) to her husband during wedding
so that usually women keep them in the
place of God.
Communities that are dominated by
Brahmin’s practice traditional beliefs.
Women of Brahmins and Chettri believe
husbands as God. In better off families
where women are completely dependent
on men consider men as God whereas in
Dalit families this belief is not very strong.
In poor families both men and women
work and earn equally therefore hierarchy
is not as strong as in Brahmin and Chetris.
Janajati’s also find themselves liberal than
Brahmin and Chettri.
Girls and women are expected to work
inside the house and in the farm. Girls are
not allowed to participate in any groups
meetings etc. Outside work is done
similarly by men and women in poor
families. But the household work is only
carried out by women. In big families
women has to do more work. If the
members of family are educated, they offer
some support to women. Educated men
have more exposure than others hence they
support their women. Increasingly some
report of sharing household workload.
Women of Brahmin and Chettri have more
work load than women of Janapati because
their mobility is restricted whereas mobility
of Janajati is not restricted. Janjatis are freer
than to B/C women and girls. In Janajati magar
community if the husband dies, the wife
comes back to her parent’s family and happily
wedded away with another man which is
not practiced in brahmin chettri community.
Generally it was found that a man of family
member has observed the girls and women
sexually harassed by men of offices and basic
service delivery centers and therefore they
do not want to send their sisters and
daughters outside the house alone.
In addition, girls are prevented to get
education thinking that they are going to
the other’s home (chori manche aruko ghar jane
jat ho) and have to do household work there.
Therefore, it was thought that education is
not compulsory for girls.
Local business of alcohol is high; it also
raises physical and mental tension in
families. When drunk men demonstrate
aggressive behavior. They start beating their
wives and are not willing to listen to anyone.
Alcohol is taken as a bigger problem for
women than the political conflicts taking
place in Terai. Dalit and Janajati women brew
alcohol at home to generate family income
but it is consumed by Dalit Janajati and
brahmin chettri. The women of Dalit and Janajati
consume alcohol and fight between
themselves generating further tensions in
the family. Alcohol consumption in men
has raised multiple family level tensions.
Women share their problems and feeling
with best friends of neighbors and their
sisters. Very few women share their feelings
openly with their husbands.
Psychosocial Issues of
Women affected by conflict
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