Fiqh of Love: Marriage in Islam Instructor: Sh ... - Qabeelat Wasat

Seed that is put in the ground is called – Habba! It is the root for the tree. Love is the reasonbehind what we do and what we don’t do, love is the seed, foundation of marriage and for goodrelationship in general – Love is where it starts from.Love is much respected concept, it is like any other emotion, it could be Halal or Haram, goodor bad, negative or positive and how we define that? Learn it through Shariah. They say, anyemotion you have, you have to see at two things, what triggers that love? Is it something goodor Haram? And where this love leads to? (Cause and effect)Prophet (SAW) was not shy to express his love for his wives, as the Prophet speaks about hiswife Khadija, “Verily, I was filled with love of her.”You have no control over your love and your heart, when you love someone and you feel yourheart attached to someone, it is not Haram to love someone because you love someone in yourheart.A man fainted when he saw the woman he loved during hajj, Ibn Abbas was asked if his hajj wasvalid. Ibn Abbas said, “It is not something that he has control over.” You cannot force love inthe heart nor can you take it or try to control it.Time is a very interesting healing factor, time has an amazing impact on our feelings, you willnever feel the same, you need to remember, if you are in love and you are not able to marry theperson you love, time will be a great factor to help you get over it and with certain practices itwould help you go over this emotion. Another example would be if you received news thatyour child drove your car and the police managed to stop him, you’d be shaken and disturbed,yet 20 years later the same news would not have the similar effect on you.Imam Ahmad (RA) narrated a Hadith, “you should not expose yourself to a fitna you have noway to handle it” – don’t put yourself in a position that is stronger for you to handle. ImamAhmad commented on it by saying “by letting yourself to hawa…”The more you spend time with a person the more you get attached to the person, i.e. dating;spending time with the person, you put yourself in a potion that is very hard to say no. Thislove is like playing with fire, and it can burn you or can be very beneficial for you, you justdon’t expose yourself to everybody.Love must be given to the right person. Make sure you protect your heart, it is the mostvaluable thing, don’t fill it up with non-sense and Haram, and rather fill it up with good type ofLove.