Fiqh of Love: Marriage in Islam Instructor: Sh ... - Qabeelat Wasat

o• A way to his heart is not through the stomach but below his stomach.• Only want that one organ to be stimulated.• Measure success in sex by climaxing• When a woman doesn't climax, man feels like something is wrong with him.While the wife may be completely satisfied.Woman- arousal is emotional, wants to be taken care off.• Needs love to desire sex• Relationship builds up sex.• If woman only pressured in sex, feels man doesn't love her and only uses herfor her body.• Think like a man when a man comes to you. It's a sign that he loves you and ifyou give it to him he will open up in ways suitable to you.• Women go through cycles (estrogen levels), a biological clock. Men expectwoman to be exactly the same this week as the week before.• Women require much more time to reach a climax. Sex mainly about foreplayand the build up.• Can start sexual act without any arousal at all and end like that too.• Don't want direct stimulation, want it built up.• Women measure not by orgasm but feeling fulfilled.• Majority of women do not climax during sex.• Porn target men and romance novels target women.• Importance of frank communicationooPeople should ask questions in a manner without offending the other.Single, biggest turn off for a man is to be told "hurry and do it quickly" and have herjust lying there.• Legal mattersooooooCulture plays a huge role in sexual intimacy.Some cultures might find some things vulgar while the shariah didn't dictate it.Allah revealed an ayah saying they can be approached in any manner.Anal intercourse and intercourse during menses are the two prohibited acts.• Quran explicitly prohibits sex during menses and implicitly prohibits analintercourse (like a tithe, a fertile land, where a child is born- only then)Oral sex• Because of cultural stigma, many scholars considered it haram and makrooh.• Sh. Yasir Qadhi's opinion- between makrooh and mubah but more towardsmakrooh. Ingesting these fluids is problematic.• Nothing to make it haram.• Is a woman obliged to do this act? No you can't oblige a woman to go over andbeyond on what she is required to do.Masturbation