Fiqh of Love: Marriage in Islam Instructor: Sh ... - Qabeelat Wasat

TheProposal/Engagement1. Don't be shy to mention what you really like.2. When a person proposes to a woman or her guardian (Wali) for marriage.3. Khitba- root comes from Al-Khatb which means a great matter, something important andserious.4. Thus, engagement is a serious issue.5. Permissible6. No limit on engagement period, it can be few days, months, years.7. Reading of fatihah at the engagement, part of the sunnah? No?o People argue that is the start of the Quran -> start of married life. Makes no sense,when you get divorced, do you read surah an-nas, the last surah? No logic.8. Engagement period is not a must just a promise.9. You can propose to a girl in two ways:ooDirect way: I want to marry your daughter.Indirect way: I heard that you have a very beautiful girl looking to get married and I'mlooking for one.10. Haram to propose a woman directly in her iddah, but permissible if it is in an indirect way.11. A Muslim cannot propose over a proposal of his brother until either he marries the womanor gives her up.o Animosity amongst the families12. Yes to engagement, no to dating.o Relationship behind the back of the families.13. A bride can accept more than one proposal and the man can propose to more than onewoman at a time.o Possibility the two people are proposing do not know each other. Thus notcontradictory to the hadith discussed above.14. Proof Imam Shafi', Malik, Hanbali - if the woman already accepted the proposal it will beharam, if she didn't accept then its okay for multiple people to propose.o A woman came to the Prophet (saw), numerous men have proposed to her, whomshould she marry? Rest of hadith?15. It is not recommended to propose to someone undecided. Even though it may bepermissible.o It will add more confusion to the girl.16. Ibn ul Qasim said it is allowed to propose to a girl who receives a proposal from a corruptperson (faasiq)