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o Along with the Shafi's and Malikio Proof for those who say it is allowed: they consider one of the conditions of marriageis a suitable match. If it is not suitable, then even the marriage contract can be brokenlater on.o Proof who says it’s not allowed: regardless the faasiq is still your brother and it is herdecision. Very strong argument.17. Proposing to a woman (Christian, Jew) considering a proposal a non-Muslimo Ones who say no- it is not good manners.o Hadith says Akhee18. I like him but I need more time- ambiguous statement.o This is not considered engagement- shafi', malaikio She is like just like someone who hasn't made a decision since she hasn't made a clearostatement.Another opinion in Shafi'- NO because that hint is a form of acceptance. If we takesilence as a clear statement for a marriage contract, then this can be applied to anengagement - others say not acceptable as hadith is for marriage not engagement.19. Marrying the fiancé of someone is a sin but the marriage will be valid by the majority of thejurist’s opinion. Ruling – Imam Shafi’ee said in his book Al-Umm, If someone marries a fiancé ofsomeone else knowing, he is a sinner and he should repent to Allah, if the marriagecontract happened between them then the marriage is valid, since it was completedin a correct way. Ibn Hajar also said, it is related to the act and not related to the marriage contractitself. This is also the opinion of majority of Fuqaha Some Fuqaha consider this marriage contracts to be invalid, you leave the girl, shegoes back she tells the person she was engaged to … and the whole process tookplace…o the logic would be that this is not already taken place?o This is not a very strong opiniono Marriage contract and engagement are two different things, if theengagement contract was broken it does not impact the marriage contract ifit is valid. First opinion is the strong one, second one does not have a strong point.How do you tell the parents?oTell them before you find the person. You’ll get support if they help you. Getthem accustomed to the idea of you being ready and interested first. Have goodrelationship and communication with your parents. Gain their trust.
oooUse Quran and Sunnah to convince them.Understand the culture. You might have to compromise.Make dua. Don’t belittle this.Looking at the Prospective Bride• Is it recommended to look at the prospective bride?o Yes it is recommended.• Can a person see the prospective bride or groom more than once?o Yes, as long as it is necessary. As soon as he/she decided they like them or not afterwhich it is not permissible?• How much of a woman is one allowed to see in order to make his decision?o According to vast majority; Hanafi, Malaki', Shafi'Only the hands and face. Why? Face holds the most beauty and the hands showowhat the rest of the body would be likeAccording to Hanabiya?To be seen in what she wears regularly at home. (Natural state)• First Impressions; First meetingooMost essential in the relationship.Expectations set us up for resentment• Can make you resist what you see.• Can hurt first meeting and relationship with wife.We differentiate in fiqh between listening and hearing and looking and seeing….you can behearing music and not listening to it – similarly you can be seeing women but not looking at oneoooLove at first sight is not always right.How to make a good First impression?Smile- by the wali, the girl.What impression do you give? You exuberate confidence, and that you feelcomfortable-people like to be with people who are comfortable with them. Italso means to be happy- 'I'm happy to be here'. Also sends the message ofAcceptance.First word out of your moth sets the first impression.Will set the mood. People like those people who make them feel good aboutthemselves. Make the other person feel good about themselves- Very Important."This brother wants to marry your daughter" Vs. " My brother ___ wants tomarry your daughter." =second one is better, more positive.To fix the damage of saying something you shouldn't have said, or done.Reply with "I am/feel very/so embarrassed." Shows complete honesty. Humans likehumans- so making errors is a part of it.
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