Look Ma... No Hands! By He<strong>at</strong>her Bolinger “F<strong>at</strong>hers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” ~Ephesians 6:4
Goodwill – a place to find a variety of gre<strong>at</strong> deals and good convers<strong>at</strong>ion; if you’re willing to take the time. I had the time, just a few days ago, to stop and talk to an employee while my husband and son were trying on some clothes. She was organizing some clothes on a rack when she made a comment about clothing to my son. He responded with a clever quip (as is his typical style) and went off to try on some shorts. She laughed and started talking to me as I looked through wh<strong>at</strong> was nearby. She took it r<strong>at</strong>her well – my son’s quirky, on-themark sense of humor. So, I told her how I try to encourage him to speak his mind – as long as he does it respectfully, th<strong>at</strong> is. She gave me this knowing agreement. Aged far beyond her years, you could see the experience in her eyes. She began to talk about her life and how she wished someone had taught her th<strong>at</strong> when she was young. “No one bothered to show me, when I was four, th<strong>at</strong> it was ok to stand up for myself. No one took the time. It took $400, in assertive classes, to teach me how to say “Hey, don’t do th<strong>at</strong>.”” I had to wonder wh<strong>at</strong> made her choose the age of four. Wh<strong>at</strong> was so significant <strong>at</strong> th<strong>at</strong> time in her life th<strong>at</strong> made her wish someone had taught her how to say something… how to draw a boundary and stand her ground? I will never know the history behind the age she chose; but those years were worn in the weary lines of her face. She smiled; but you could tell she was tired. <strong>Life</strong> had not been good to her… and she summed it up in those few short words. “If only someone had taught me when I was young…” It leaves an impression when you see someone worn down by a life more than half gone. It makes you stop and take a closer look <strong>at</strong> your own. Am I living a life th<strong>at</strong> will end full of regrets? It makes you take a closer look <strong>at</strong> the lives of your children. Will they be the ones saying “If only someone had taken the time to teach me…”? A sobering thought, wrapped up in a convers<strong>at</strong>ion th<strong>at</strong> lasted a whole of maybe five minutes. How would her life have been different if someone had taken the time to be there for her? How did the loss of those form<strong>at</strong>ive years effect the direction of her future? Sadly, we see this woman in the lives of far too many people in our society today. And I, for one, do not want my children to be one of them. God has entrusted me with His most precious cre<strong>at</strong>ion; and to take th<strong>at</strong> lightly is to squander the opportunity, I have been given, to make a difference. They say children don’t come with an instruction manual; but I beg to differ. As Christians, we have the best instruction manual ever written - the Word of God - to help us navig<strong>at</strong>e the complexities of this undeniably indispensable calling. In this ever-changing, increasingly-divided world, there are many people th<strong>at</strong> would like to get their hands into the lives of our children. From movies, TV shows, schools and groups; to billboards, magazines, music and books – everyone wants to influence the next gener<strong>at</strong>ion to go in THEIR direction. Without someone there to guide them, our children will go whichever direction those societal winds blow them. “(Christ gave us wh<strong>at</strong> we needed to be equipped) so th<strong>at</strong> we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. R<strong>at</strong>her, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.” ~Ephesians 4:14-15