June 2017

THERAPY
Here’s to YOU
DAD
by Celeste Catania-Opris, Ph.D.
Every year, during
the month of June,
we allow one
day out of the year to
celebrate a person who
means so much to us—
Dad. This Father’s Day,
celebrate what you have
built—a beautiful family
who needs and adores
you. Sure, some days are
hectic and stressful, but
remember to look at your
children and view them
as they see you.
You are their hero, their idea of what a man
is, and the man that makes their world fun.
Kids crave to spend time with their fathers. You are most likely
exhausted by the time you come home from work, so create
realistic goals as far as what you are able to do. Throw a ball
around outside, watch a movie before bed, or play a game
together on your tablet; whatever it is, your kids will enjoy
it because they are spending individualized time with you.
On the weekends, splurge. You could camp outside in your
backyard or even check out Groupon deals for some fun, local
adventures.
With everything going on, remember to also take time for
yourself and try to relax. Go watch a game, grab a drink with a
buddy of yours, or go for a run to clear your mind. Stress can
get to us, which may cause us to react negatively at times. The
more relaxed you are, the more patient and understanding you
will be, which will positively impact those around you, especially
your children.
Parenting may have changed over the
years, but you will never forget the lessons
you learned as a kid.
Consider how you want your kids to think of you as a father and
be that way for them. Reflect on what you would like to pass
on to your kids; perhaps certain qualities that you believe are
essential. In addition, tell them stories about your life; ones that
will help them to understand and relate to you on a deeper level,
as their memories of you will last a lifetime.
Think of all the sacrifices you have made and know they are all
worth it. It requires a strong drive to get up every day and go
to work. It requires
discipline to be
present as a father,
which is one of the
greatest gifts you
can give to your
children. Perhaps
at times, you may
raise your voice
more often than
you would prefer,
or you might not
always say or do
the right things.
Nevertheless,
remind yourself that
parenting does not
come with a magical handbook. You are still learning as a father
and even though you may not have it all figured out, your kids
will always love you unconditionally.
Happy Father’s Day. P
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JUNE 2017