A Judge’s Guide
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C. Children are further traumatized when they fail to see the true victim provided<br />
protection and witness the batterer gain powerful leverage via a mutual order. Not only is the<br />
adult victim endangered by mutual orders, but the children also are placed at greater risk for<br />
future harm. Our children need to see that the laws will protect them in their homes as well as<br />
on the street, regardless of how smooth the batterer is. The court allows the batterer to<br />
successfully nullify the protective order’s possible safety net when mutual orders are permitted.<br />
D. Since victims are often condemned for staying with the abuser or requesting to dismiss<br />
orders, the victims brave enough to seek protection should be treated seriously. Unless the<br />
court finds that mutual combat has taken place, 273 and absent one party acting in self-defense,<br />
orders issued to both parties will have a chilling effect on the true victim coming forward for<br />
help again.<br />
XVI. MEDIATION TOO OFTEN IGNORES CHILDREN’S SAFETY ISSUES. 274<br />
A. Regardless of the mediator’s skill, the victim is endangered for disclosing any<br />
information about the batterer’s behavior. Since there is little the victim can reveal without<br />
fear of retaliation, the mediator’s attempts to negotiate a peaceful resolution can only be viewed<br />
as disingenuous. The power imbalance between victim and offender is too great: what is the<br />
victim supposed to give in exchange for safety? 275 Custodial interference and prolonged<br />
custody battles are common tactics of batterers after separation. The victim must have a forum<br />
which will treat the renewed abuse seriously and make clear to the batterer that his behavior<br />
will not be tolerated. 276 We do not mediate civil rights’ offenses because persons of color have<br />
a right to be free from abuse and the offender is to receive the unequivocal message that racist<br />
behavior will not be tolerated. If the court insists that mediation must occur, ensure that the<br />
victim and offender are not in the same room, 277 and that the parties have legal counsel<br />
present. 278<br />
B. Batterer’s experts report that most batterers will not negotiate in good faith. Mediation<br />
relies on the assumption that both parties will enter all agreements with the intention of<br />
compliance. However, since batterers operate on the premise that they are entitled to use<br />
violence to achieve their goals, mediation is an inappropriate venue to attempt resolution of<br />
273<br />
Det. Charles Masino, Chief of the Phoenix Police Dept’s Domestic Violence Unit, states that mutual combat<br />
arrests should occur in no more than 3% of the arrests, and that even that number is probably too high, and that<br />
mutual orders place the officers at greater risk because the abuser has not been given a clear message.<br />
274<br />
Jennifer P. Maxwell, Mandatory Mediation of Custody in the Face of Domestic Violence: Suggestions for<br />
Courts and Mediators, 37 FAMILY AND CONCILIATION COURTS REV. 335 (July 1999); and infra.<br />
275<br />
Barbara Hart, Gentle Jeopardy: The Further Endangerment of Battered Women and Children in Custody<br />
Mediation, 7 MEDIATION Q. 317, 322 (Summer 1990); Andree G. Gagnon, Ending Mandatory Divorce<br />
Mediation for Battered Women, 15 HARV. WOM. L.J. 272 (1992).<br />
276<br />
Id.<br />
277<br />
Harvey I. Hauer, Making Mediation Work, FAMILY ADVOCATE, American Bar Association’s Family Law<br />
Section Journal, p. 27 (Spring 1997).<br />
278<br />
Unrepresented women tend to feel coerced and have greater difficulty participating. Eric Galton. MEDIATION:<br />
A TEXAS PRACTICE GUIDE p. 100 (Texas Lawyer Press, 1993), as cited in Melanie Kane-Gonzales, supra note<br />
83 at 28.<br />
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