A Judge’s Guide
A Judge’s Guide
A Judge’s Guide
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Special<br />
Considerations<br />
DEVELOPMENTAL CONSIDERATIONS<br />
As mentioned earlier, it may be particularly difficult for a child of this age to adapt<br />
both to the transition into a more formal learning environment and to family<br />
change. The early elementary school-aged child still derives a sense of security in<br />
predictable family rituals and schedules. The common fears for this age group,<br />
including a fear of abandonment, can be exacerbated by the separation and further<br />
undermine their sense of security. “Who will take care of me if something<br />
happens to Mommy or Daddy?” Fear and anxiety may be particularly marked<br />
during transition times between households.<br />
It is important to acknowledge the child’s perspective, yet look beyond the “black<br />
and white” to the shades of gray. For example, a child may have strong objection<br />
to a significant other or a stepparent even though in reality this person may offer<br />
critical support and understanding. Remember that children at this age often<br />
express a desire to see their parents back together despite all odds.<br />
Be aware of suggestibility. At this age, a child may be<br />
particularly prone to suggestibility or “brainwashing.” Seek a<br />
professional referral if necessary.<br />
Simplify the schedule. Make sure that the parenting schedule<br />
is stated simply so that the child can understand it. Unless the<br />
child is particularly flexible, it is probably not the age to try creative<br />
parenting arrangements. Like the preschooler, the early elementary<br />
school-aged child still derives a sense of security from<br />
predictability and consistency in family routines. It is a good age<br />
for parents to use calendars to help the child predict daily and<br />
weekly activities and transitions.<br />
Minimize change. As stated before, there is a lot of change<br />
already taking place in the life of an early elementary school-aged<br />
child. Too many changes that interrupt established interests and<br />
activities can undermine a growing sense of competency.<br />
Behavioral concerns. What a judge learns about certain<br />
behaviors a child demonstrates, and how each parent is responding<br />
to the behaviors, will assist the court in developing an effective<br />
custody agreement. The following suggest that the child is<br />
depressed and/or caught in an unhealthy pattern of family<br />
dynamics, and may require a referral to a mental health<br />
professional for either individual or group counseling:<br />
The child is shuttling messages between the parents in the role<br />
of “messenger.”<br />
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