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Fortunately, it is these complications that may actually<br />
help in waiting out a cycle. Since these circumstances often<br />
take time to work out, a partner can use this to his or her<br />
advantage.<br />
One way is to communicate these complications to the<br />
sufferer, and suggest waiting things out before commencing<br />
such burdensome tasks. It may be appropriate to offer to go<br />
and stay <strong>with</strong> friends or family to give the sufferer some<br />
space. This helps in providing more immediate relief, thus<br />
enabling the potential for ending a cycle.<br />
This can require a few days or more, and means to stay<br />
away. Pack enough so you will not need to return to the<br />
home for a while. If you do need to visit the home, try to do<br />
it when the sufferer is not there. After a while, you may be<br />
able to enter discussion about working things out. There is<br />
the possibility that, before long, the sufferer will request for<br />
you to come back.<br />
Stay patient and respectful, as this is for giving your partner<br />
time to calm down. Don't do anything to create more<br />
anxiety.<br />
It may help to suggest marriage or couples counseling.<br />
The process of separating when living together is complicated,<br />
and this suggestion may be accepted by the sufferer.<br />
Although you are aware that the problem is not in the relationship,<br />
this can help to buy time. Also, a counselor may<br />
help in getting your partner to accept that these events occur<br />
due to circumstances of his or her own creation. If your<br />
partner is unaware of his or her OCD behaviors, this would<br />
be significantly helpful.<br />
However the residential issues of the separation tran-<br />
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