Sleeping-with-ROCD

If there is consideration for the partner's position, it is the
sufferer's perception of the partner's thoughts and feelings,
often unfounded or irrational. This applies to obsessions
about whether the partner loves the sufferer, if the partner
will cheat, if the partner is planning to break off the relationship,
and other questions stemming from insecurities.
Who are you and what have you done to my baby?
Partners of sufferers of ROCD may notice that, during a
spike (or subsequent breakup), the sufferer turns “cold”,
showing no sympathy, empathy, or guilt. Descriptions of
this characteristic are often “Jekyll and Hyde”, or “someone
else”. The sufferer becomes emotionally unresponsive,
showing virtually no feelings toward the partner. This can
be devastating, as the partner feels not only the rejection,
but an absence of any concern that they are being hurt. The
sufferer shows no remorse or apparent conception of the
pain they are inflicting, appearing quite detached from the
matter.
The sufferer is only interested in proving his or her feelings,
and there is rarely room to consider the partner's feelings.
Conceiving and empathizing with the pain they are
causing is rare. This is because the sufferer has concluded
that he or she does not love the partner. Empathy or remorse
would indicate feelings, which ROCD has “told”
them they don't have. This “cold” nature is in accordance to
that affirmation.
Is it me or...
The sufferer may know about his or her ROCD and how
it is affecting them. However, during a spike, the sufferer
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