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has no way of knowing the difference between what is real,
and what is ROCD, because ROCD has almost total control
of the sufferer's logical process. The sufferer can only be
open to the possibility that it is OCD, however this does not
change the effect. A person with ROCD is a victim of his or
her own mind.
The Aftermath
When the spike subsides, the sufferer will naturally regret
his or her action. The sufferer realizes the mistake, and
can experience significant depression due to the harm done
to the partner, and, if applicable, the loss of the partner. The
timing of the realization varies from days to months, but
usually occurs at a point when the sufferer recognizes that
he or she does love the partner. However, the sufferer may
hold onto the doubt until the relationship has ended, and
even for a period after that.
The partner, usually deeply hurt, may or may not return
to the relationship. Each time this occurs, partners can experience
a lessening of trust, patience, and eventually the loss
of will to remain in the relationship. If the sufferer fails to
recognize or acknowledge ROCD, how it affects the partner,
and get help, the partner may experience a significant
loss of affection toward the sufferer.
It Never Ends
If the relationship ends, and the sufferer is able to move
on to another partner, the cycle eventually begins again.
ROCD is inside the sufferer's mind, and is not caused or
created by the previous partner. The indecision does not go
away with the previous relationship, but eventually rede-
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