Sleeping-with-ROCD

A Bad Rap
A common misinterpretation of a sufferer's behavior is
that he or she is a liar, playing head games, immature, or
just mean. The truth is that he or she is usually being honest,
both in confessions of love, and confessions of the opposite.
This is difficult to understand for people who are
unfamiliar with ROCD. It isn't that he or she is or was lying
to the partner, it is that ROCD is causing sufferer to lie to
themselves.
Wolf in Sheep's Clothing
During an onset of ROCD, the sufferer may experience
thoughts that he or she is lying to or fooling those close, as
a result of the conclusion that he or she does not love the
partner. For example, while a couple is at dinner with the
partner's parents, the suffer has persistent thoughts about
how he or she is lying to everyone, including the parents.
Thoughts in this circumstance are or are similar to the following:
“You have no idea that I don't love your daughter.”
“I'm lying to all of you, and you don't even know it.”
“I am an awful person for stringing these people
along like this.”
The sufferer can experience feelings of guilt or shame due
to the idea that the relationship is a farce, because he or she
is only pretending to love the partner, and is fooling everyone
involved.
This eventually leads to confession and, possibly, a subsequent
breakup, as the sufferer cannot handle the guilt involved
in staying with someone they don't love. He or she
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