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tion may increase the sufferer's feelings of desperation, and<br />
the inclination to get out of the relationship.<br />
However difficult, don't let your partner's <strong>ROCD</strong> dictate<br />
your feelings. By staying calm and controlling your reactions,<br />
you will have a better chance of making it through<br />
the cycle <strong>with</strong> your relationship still intact.<br />
Leave it in the past<br />
If you have already experienced one or more breakups<br />
due to <strong>ROCD</strong>, staying calm may be more difficult. Every<br />
time your partner has broken up <strong>with</strong> you as a result of<br />
<strong>ROCD</strong>, you may have developed more intolerance and distrust.<br />
The number of times this has occurred will impact the<br />
strength of these feelings.<br />
In this case, you will have to work harder to keep calm.<br />
You may be “tired” of this, but bear in mind that your partner<br />
does not see the pattern as you do. A person <strong>with</strong><br />
<strong>ROCD</strong> may recognize that he or she has done this before,<br />
but does not logically consider that in previous cases the<br />
process was uncalled for. All he or she knows is how they<br />
feel now.<br />
Don't carry emotions from previous experiences into a<br />
current cycle. Let go of what cannot change or be taken<br />
back, and only deal <strong>with</strong> the present issue. Don't let that<br />
which you can't control upset you. This will help you emotionally,<br />
by preventing responses which would make things<br />
worse.<br />
From your experience, you are likely aware that your<br />
partner is not trying to hurt or upset you, and that he or she<br />
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