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The person may imagine circumstances where homosexual<br />
acts take place, to test emotional response. In some cases,<br />
the person will actually engage in this activity in effort to<br />
confirm or disqualify the idea.<br />
Is this Love?<br />
<strong>ROCD</strong> can hinder a person's ability to enjoy moments of<br />
intimacy, or what would normally be an enjoyable experience<br />
between partners. Instead, he or she analyzing his or<br />
her emotional response. Unable to relax and enjoy a good<br />
time, the person is asking themselves if the emotional connection<br />
they feel is substantial enough to justify remaining<br />
in the relationship. The question is,”Do I feel love right<br />
now?” This is counterproductive as it starts the obsessing,<br />
resulting in emotional void. The person expects to always<br />
feel “in love” when <strong>with</strong> the right partner. Lack of this emotional<br />
intensity is viewed as a signal of a bad partnership.<br />
Now you see it. Now you don't.<br />
For the partner, this is equally, if not more confusing. The<br />
sufferer usually confesses their feelings of doubt, and will<br />
reveal the reasons to the partner. The partner will often hear<br />
statements like “I care about you, but I don't think I love<br />
you.”, “I can't get over (minor flaw), so I can't be <strong>with</strong><br />
you.”or “I want to be <strong>with</strong> someone who thinks like me.”<br />
This subjects the partner to repeated criticism, hurt feelings,<br />
and confusion.<br />
<strong>ROCD</strong> appears intermittently, therefore the partner experiences<br />
moments of feeling like everything is going well,<br />
followed by drastic reversal. <strong>ROCD</strong> is often described as<br />
manic-depressive in nature. Spikes often occur soon after a<br />
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