Sleeping-with-ROCD

When in an ROCD relationship, more patience and
strength are needed than normal. It is understandable to
feel lost sometimes. Not knowing what to do, what to say,
or how to feel are frustrating circumstances. One's emotional
strength is tested repeatedly, sometimes almost to the
point of giving up and walking away.
Many ask themselves why they stay. The answer is usually
love. Many get frustrated, knowing that they don't deserve
to live with the effects of ROCD. Many may dabble
with the idea of leaving the relationship. Most don't because
they know the real person behind this is wonderful,
and the idea of hurting their partner (and themselves) is unthinkable.
In chapter 1, you learned the identity of the monster that
is ROCD. You gained insight to how it gets inside your
partner's head and twists a good relationship beyond recognition.
You also learned why your partner does some of the
things he or she does. You may have gained some comfort
in knowing that you are not alone.
Knowing what you are up against is important for knowing
how to deal with it. The doubts, confusion, and frustration
that you may have felt in the course of this relationship
may now be replaced by understanding, and an ability to
see past offenses. It may still be hard, but knowing what
ROCD is should be helpful in getting through rough times
without feeling lost or confused.
In chapter 2, you learned that OCD is behind ROCD, and
that you are not dealing with something that hasn't been
seen before. You gained insight into OCD, its many manifestations,
and, perhaps, how it appears in your relationship.
This should help by giving you comfort in knowing
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