The information book - Paediatric Integrated Cancer Service
The information book - Paediatric Integrated Cancer Service
The information book - Paediatric Integrated Cancer Service
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Brothers and sisters of a child who have cancer are likely to find it a<br />
difficult time. Some siblings are able to cope with the extra challenges that the<br />
illness brings to the family and learn something positive from the experience.<br />
But others find it very difficult to cope. <strong>The</strong>y may feel anger, fear, jealousy or<br />
sadness which may result in acting-out behaviour, withdrawal, anxiety about<br />
their own health, and difficulty at school both academically and socially.<br />
<strong>The</strong>y may even feel guilty that their sibling is sick.<br />
Strategies that may help you support the siblings of your sick child include:<br />
• It is a good idea to have a trusted relative or friend who comes specifically<br />
to see the other children regularly.<br />
• Remind family and friends to ask about and visit the other children.<br />
• Ensure that the kinder / school is aware of their brother / sister’s sickness.<br />
• Request a buddy system to support the well child. For example, a class<br />
teacher might check on the child each day. <strong>The</strong> teachers may make sure<br />
that the child knows who to talk to at school if he / she is feeling upset.<br />
• Ensure that the well children have contact with a trusted adult friend outside<br />
the immediate family who they can talk to about their worries. Often children<br />
do not want to add to your stress by admitting that they are worried or upset<br />
as well.<br />
• Ensure that the siblings are included in the treatment plan where possible<br />
and appropriate. Often the unknown is more scary than the known. It may<br />
be possible for siblings to spend some time with their brother or sister<br />
while they are in hospital and they may be able to come up with ideas for<br />
entertainment.<br />
• Ensure that the siblings are able to access age-appropriate child-friendly<br />
<strong>information</strong> about your child’s cancer. If you are unsure what <strong>information</strong> is<br />
available, talk to your Nurse Coordinator or social worker. <strong>The</strong>y will be able<br />
to discuss relevant resources with you.<br />
• If possible ensure that you have a regular special time with each sibling<br />
where they can discuss anything that might be on their mind. This time<br />
does not need to be long. Just make clear that you are there for the sibling<br />
and understand that it can be difficult to be a brother / sister of a child with<br />
cancer.<br />
• Where possible ensure that the sibling / s have time for normal activities.<br />
Reassure them that it is okay to play and feel happy.<br />
Living with cancer Sec.3:25<br />
Updated March 2011