Loss and Grief in Dementia
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Guidance <strong>and</strong> Resources<br />
What gives mean<strong>in</strong>g, purpose <strong>and</strong> value to me <strong>in</strong> my life?<br />
“I connect at the deeper level of spirituality, so I treasure your visit as a ‘now’ experience <strong>in</strong> which<br />
I have connected spirit to spirit. I need you to affirm my identity <strong>and</strong> walk alongside me.<br />
I may not be able to affirm you, to remember who you are or wherever you visited me. But you have<br />
brought spiritual connection to me; you have allowed the div<strong>in</strong>e to work through you. This can<br />
happen across cultures <strong>and</strong> languages, <strong>and</strong> is a very mean<strong>in</strong>gful depth of communication, one<br />
that perhaps we should all strive for” (Christ<strong>in</strong>e Bryden, self-advocate liv<strong>in</strong>g with dementia <strong>in</strong> (109))<br />
People with dementia may get a sense of mean<strong>in</strong>g, purpose <strong>and</strong> value from their faith, their family, or<br />
from other th<strong>in</strong>gs which support them to explore <strong>and</strong> express their spirituality. Some of the th<strong>in</strong>gs you<br />
may consider when explor<strong>in</strong>g spirituality with a person with dementia are:<br />
• Current religious attachments /Religious symbols (121). People, for whom faith practices have<br />
been important <strong>in</strong> their lives may be assisted to cope by access<strong>in</strong>g faith activities (such as attend<strong>in</strong>g<br />
church/ prayer meet<strong>in</strong>gs etc) (128). Both religiousity <strong>and</strong> personal spirituality have been related to<br />
ma<strong>in</strong>ta<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g a good quality of life for people with dementia <strong>in</strong> many studies (128–131).<br />
• The person’s past activities – social, cultural, religious, spiritual.<br />
• Past strategies <strong>and</strong> cop<strong>in</strong>g mechanisms.<br />
• The person with dementia’s <strong>in</strong>terpretation of the dementia experience.<br />
• The person with dementia’s sense of hope <strong>and</strong> what gives them hope.<br />
• The person with dementia’s sense of connectedness with others.<br />
• The presence/ absence of spiritual / religious literature/ rituals/objects <strong>and</strong> practice.<br />
• Childhood memories <strong>and</strong> life story work which can support the person to engage <strong>in</strong> rem<strong>in</strong>isc<strong>in</strong>ce<br />
<strong>and</strong> explore the mean<strong>in</strong>g they attach to their experiences (132).<br />
• Art therapy (133).<br />
• Outdoor activity (134).<br />
• Meditation (135).<br />
What do I need to be at peace with myself, others <strong>and</strong> the world?<br />
Bycok (136) identified some of the tasks which people at the end of their life may wish to achieve <strong>in</strong><br />
order to be at peace. Some of the commonly listed tasks are hav<strong>in</strong>g as a sense of completion of worldly<br />
affairs/ responsibilities, a sense of mean<strong>in</strong>g about one’s life, forgiv<strong>in</strong>g one’s self <strong>and</strong> others, acceptance<br />
of the f<strong>in</strong>ality of life <strong>and</strong> a surrender to the transcendent or ‘lett<strong>in</strong>g go’. There may be some practical<br />
th<strong>in</strong>gs you can support the person with dementia to do to assist them to achieve peace, for example<br />
they may be concerned about a family member/ practical issues <strong>in</strong> the home. They may be concerned<br />
about their future <strong>and</strong> what the plan is for them particularly <strong>in</strong> relation to their wishes <strong>in</strong> the event of illness<br />
<strong>and</strong> death. Hav<strong>in</strong>g plans <strong>in</strong> place can be important for people with life-limit<strong>in</strong>g illnesses to be at peace.<br />
As a healthcare staff, you may be able to support this plann<strong>in</strong>g by:<br />
• Facilitate discussions with the person <strong>in</strong> relation to their future <strong>and</strong> end-of-life care <strong>and</strong> support<strong>in</strong>g<br />
them to engage <strong>in</strong> advance care plann<strong>in</strong>g if it is their wish to do so (see guidance documents 1<br />
<strong>and</strong> 2 <strong>in</strong> this series for further <strong>in</strong>formation).<br />
• Address the person’s hopes, fears <strong>and</strong> concerns – use active listen<strong>in</strong>g <strong>and</strong> support emotions.<br />
Seek support from colleagues or more senior members of healthcare staff as required.<br />
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