Loss and Grief in Dementia
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Section 4<br />
c. transitions encountered by family members of people with dementia<br />
The number <strong>and</strong> frequency of transitions <strong>in</strong>to different healthcare sett<strong>in</strong>gs varies for any <strong>in</strong>dividual <strong>and</strong><br />
each change br<strong>in</strong>gs with it a need for new adjustments. These can cause periods of acute grief or ‘grief<br />
surges’ for family members. There are commonly reported ‘p<strong>in</strong>ch po<strong>in</strong>ts’ when grief is acutely felt.<br />
The figure below is taken from (156) <strong>and</strong> gives the reader a sense of the key po<strong>in</strong>ts along the person<br />
<strong>and</strong> families journey with dementia where grief is heightened.<br />
key p<strong>in</strong>chpo<strong>in</strong>ts When <strong>Grief</strong> can be heightened for family members<br />
- Notic<strong>in</strong>g symptoms<br />
- Diagnosis of dementia<br />
- Increas<strong>in</strong>g loss of memory <strong>and</strong> cognitive function<strong>in</strong>g<br />
- <strong>Loss</strong> of driver’s license<br />
- No longer can go out alone<br />
- No longer can be left alone<br />
- Help with personal care required<br />
- Need for outside assistance<br />
- Need for respite<br />
- Incont<strong>in</strong>ence<br />
- A change <strong>in</strong> the person's behaviour<br />
- Caregiver no longer recognised<br />
- Develops connection to another resident<br />
- Changes <strong>in</strong> the person's communication<br />
- <strong>Loss</strong> of mobility<br />
- Inability to swallow<br />
- Decl<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g health <strong>and</strong> end-of-life care<br />
- Death <strong>and</strong> bereavement<br />
diagnosis<br />
need for support<br />
<strong>in</strong>creases which may<br />
result <strong>in</strong> placement<br />
<strong>in</strong> a residential care<br />
centre<br />
Increase <strong>in</strong> home<br />
care support<br />
death<br />
Family members can experience <strong>in</strong>tense feel<strong>in</strong>gs of guilt, particularly when there is a need for external<br />
<strong>in</strong>volvement <strong>in</strong> the person’s care such as beg<strong>in</strong>n<strong>in</strong>g to engage with home help services, go<strong>in</strong>g to<br />
respite or go<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong>to a nurs<strong>in</strong>g home. They can feel guilty if the person is unsettled, they can compare<br />
themselves to others <strong>and</strong> their ability to cope, they may f<strong>in</strong>d it very hard to see the person very settled<br />
<strong>in</strong> a new environment or hav<strong>in</strong>g good relationships with healthcare staff when they had been very<br />
unsettled at home (157). It is vital to be sensitive to families at this highly emotional <strong>and</strong> stressful<br />
time. What may seem like an angry/ pedantic family member may <strong>in</strong> fact be a person try<strong>in</strong>g to exert<br />
some level of control over a situation which is <strong>in</strong>tensely stressful <strong>and</strong> overwhelm<strong>in</strong>g for them.<br />
Mov<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong>to a long term care sett<strong>in</strong>g is a time where family members experience acute or heightened<br />
grief reactions (141,158). Many family members can be overwhelmed with feel<strong>in</strong>gs of guilt, loss <strong>and</strong><br />
grief. Healthcare staff <strong>and</strong> family members can often mis<strong>in</strong>terpret each other’s communication, or<br />
each other’s motivations <strong>and</strong> this is a common source of compla<strong>in</strong>t <strong>in</strong> healthcare sett<strong>in</strong>gs (159). It is<br />
extremely important to support family carers to cont<strong>in</strong>ue to be <strong>in</strong>volved <strong>and</strong> connected with their<br />
relative <strong>and</strong> provide emotional support to help them positively adapt to their new situation (160).<br />
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<strong>Loss</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>Grief</strong> <strong>in</strong> <strong>Dementia</strong>