Seadet-i Ebediyye - Endless Bliss Sixth Fascicle

household, the gold spent for the household is the most
meritorious and yields most thawâb.’ Ibni Sîrîn ‘rahmatullâhi
ta’âlâ ’alaih’, (of Basra, 33–110 [729 A.D.],) states: ‘One should
buy sweet food for one’s family at least once a week.’ Marriage is
harâm for a person who is incapable of providing ‘nafaqa’ for a
family. Meals should not be eaten alone. It yields plenty of thawâb
to eat them with one’s wife and children. The most important thing
is to earn the nafaqa by way of halâl and feed one’s family with
halâl food.”]
10– He should not beat his wife. If she commits one of the
offences written in the hundred and eighty-eighth page of the third
volume of Durr-ul-mukhtâr, it will be permissible for him to
chastise her with (a punishment termed) ta’zîr. (Please see the
eleventh chapter!) However, it is not wâjib to do so.
[Some people argue that beating women is a commandment
declared in the thirty-third âyat-i-kerîma of Nisâ Sûra. The âyat-ikerîma,
however, purports: “Men are dominant over women. For,
Allâhu ta’âlâ has created some of His slaves superior over others.
Moreover, men spend their property for them (women). The
righeous women are devoutly obedient to Allâhu ta’âlâ and
observe the rights of their husbands. In their husbands’ absence
they guard their honour and property as Allâhu ta’âlâ would have
them do so. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty
and mis-conduct; admonish them (first); (next), refuse to share
their beds; (and last), beat them lightly if they still insist in their
disobedience! But if they return to obedience, avoid doing
something to annoy them!” As is seen, it is not permissible to
annoy by any means, let alone beat, women who do not act
perfidiously with respect to honour and property. As for perfidious
ones; permission has been given to chastise them by beating them
lightly with open, fistless hand or by using an open, untied
handkerchief. Women guilty of acts of perfidy in matters involving
honour and property are punished heavily in all governmental and
jurisprudential systems. Islam, on the other hand, attaches great
value to and has profound compassion over the woman; therefore,
before delivering perfidious ones to the talons of law, it commands
men to first try to chastise them by means of a gentle beating.
It is stated in a hadîth-i-sherîf: “If a man beats his wife, I will
sue him on the Rising Day.” Let alone beating her, he must not
even say acrid or harsh words to her on account of faults
concerning worldly matters.
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