The Duchy of Jerald

If a job is unnecessary then it makes sense to avoid it. But if the job is going to make your life
easier or more pleasant in the long run, then the sooner you do it, the better.
You were not born lazy. Laziness is nothing but the bad habit of telling yourself things about
work which aren’t true. Once you start telling yourself that (1) work is not awful; (2) there is no
reason why you must avoid it; and (3) the sooner you get it done the better, you’ll see that your
laziness disappears.
There is no need to make life difficult for yourself by working too hard, doing unnecessary
work. But if the job is necessary or will make your life better in the long run, then (1) decide
when you are going to do it ( the sooner the better); (2) do it at the time you say you are going to
do it—don’t delay it again; (3) if it’s a big job, do little bits at a time; and (4) give yourself a
reward after you complete each little part of the job.
Life is for living. If you’re tired, take a rest. But don’t spend your entire life resting. You only
have one lifetime, so do as much as you can with it. Try things that might be difficult or
unpleasant at first, and keep doing them until you get good at them and find that you enjoy them.
Irrational Idea No. 8: The idea that one should be dependent on others and needs someone
stronger than oneself on whom to rely.
We cannot do everything for ourselves. From time to time we need other people’s help to fix
our car, treat our illnesses, or build our houses. But the more we can do for ourselves the better.
If we become too dependent on others we lose control of our lives and allow others to make our
choices and do our thinking. It makes sense to cooperate with one another, but it makes no sense
to be totally dependent.
If you believe you must have someone else’s help to get by, you will have to give up many
things you want to do in life, and go along with things they want you to do. You will make
yourself afraid that if you don’t do what they want you to do, then next time you need their help,
they won’t be there for you. After a while, you won’t be you any more: you’ll be their slave.
If you depend on others to make you feel safe, you’ll end up being less safe because you are
less able to look after yourself.
The more you let others do things for you, the less skilled and the less confident you’ll be. The
less skilled and the less confident you are, the more you’ll depend on others. It becomes a
vicious circle.