The Duchy of Jerald

Love
Sun, 06 Jan 2019 07:35:48, jerald, [category: uncategorized]
"“What’s the use of falling in love if you both remain inertly as-you-were?” Mary McCarthy
asked her friend Hannah Arendt in their correspondence about love. The question resonates
because it speaks to a central necessity of love — at its truest and most potent, love invariably
does change us, deconditioning our painful pathologies and elevating us toward our highest
human potential. It allows us, as Barack Obama so eloquently wrote in his reflections on what
his mother taught him about love, “to break across our solitude, and then, if we’re lucky, [be]
finally transformed into something firmer.”" - https://www.brainpickings.org/2016/09/27/kahlilgibran-the-prophet-love-marriage/
Total nonsense. Love is a choice. If we focus on how much love we are getting we lose sight
on how much love we are giving. That is the transformation to a 'better person'. We are made of
thousands of characteristics. If I choose to 'love' (a meaningless word) 60% of yours and put up
with the 40% I deem bullshit, then that's a functional marriage because I am getting 60% of my
satisfactions met. I prefer you have the following characteristics but only 60% are required
because I'm not a damn perfectionist:
kind
smart
affectionate
likes art
available
attractive to me
likes sex
internet savvy
mentally/emotionally reasonable health
good conversationalist
likes to dine out/coffee shop
likes exercise/gym
likes healthy food
atheism/rational