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encourage you to love yourself<br />
– and shows that you know you<br />
deserve that positivity in your life.<br />
Keep your biggest fans close – the<br />
people who respect you, the people<br />
who see your potential, and the<br />
people who encourage you to fulfil<br />
it. Listen to what these people love<br />
about you – instead of dismissing<br />
their compliments, take note of<br />
them. Try to see yourself through<br />
the eyes of people who love and<br />
support you.<br />
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN DO,<br />
RATHER THAN WHAT YOU CAN’T<br />
Everybody has abilities and<br />
limitations, but this can seem<br />
even more prevalent when you<br />
have an illness or disability. Try<br />
to focus on the things that you<br />
can do, rather than what you<br />
can’t. Focus on your ability to<br />
see colours, or to breathe fresh<br />
air, to make someone else smile,<br />
or to dance (even if you’re not<br />
very good at it!). Remember that<br />
hobbies don’t always have to bring<br />
you money or ‘success’. Figure out<br />
what it is that you enjoy doing,<br />
rather than what others enjoy<br />
doing, and do more of it.<br />
FORGIVE YOURSELF<br />
It’s easy to blame or criticise<br />
ourselves when we make mistakes.<br />
We often punish ourselves for<br />
forgetting to take medication, or<br />
not drinking enough water, or<br />
other choices that can negatively<br />
impact us, especially with an<br />
illness or disability. It’s important<br />
to remember that nobody is<br />
perfect. To be human is to make<br />
mistakes. Forgive yourself as you<br />
would forgive those you love.<br />
CULTIVATE A POSITIVE<br />
SPACE ONLINE<br />
It’s well known that social media<br />
can have a negative impact on<br />
our relationship with ourselves.<br />
When you’re only seeing people’s<br />
highlight reels, it’s often easy<br />
to falsely believe they’re living<br />
a perfect life, so it’s no wonder<br />
that a survey carried out by<br />
disability charity Scope found<br />
that 62% of social media users<br />
feel inadequate when comparing<br />
themselves to other people’s<br />
posts. But social media can<br />
be an incredibly positive and<br />
supportive community, too – it’s<br />
just about ensuring you take out<br />
the toxicity, and instead fill your<br />
feed with inspiration.<br />
Unfollow social media<br />
accounts that make you feel<br />
bad about yourself, and instead<br />
follow those that encourage<br />
or entertain you. Some great<br />
accounts that actively encourage<br />
self-love on Instagram include:<br />
@bodyposipanda for body<br />
positive inspiration;<br />
@katieabey for positive self-love<br />
slogans; @thetummydiaries,<br />
@bryonyehopkins and<br />
@sophjbutler for a dose of<br />
realness, embracing scars, and<br />
food and exercise with an illness<br />
or disability. And of course,<br />
@daily__hedgehog, because who<br />
can’t learn a bit of self-love from<br />
those spiky little creatures?<br />
PRACTISE SELF-CARE<br />
Practising self-care is not only<br />
great for your health, but also<br />
great for self-love. Loving yourself<br />
is easier when you actively take<br />
care of yourself, and nourish your<br />
wellbeing. Although, everyone<br />
has different needs, so self-care<br />
can take various forms. It might<br />
be eating healthily or indulging<br />
in foods that you enjoy, getting<br />
an early night or going out with<br />
friends, going for a run or going<br />
for a lie down. Listen to what your<br />
body needs, and honour it as much<br />
as you can.<br />
CREATE BOUNDARIES<br />
Creating boundaries in our<br />
work and social lives is vital to<br />
our mental and physical health.<br />
Despite this, not all of us do it.<br />
Many of us feel guilty for saying no<br />
to a work task, or a social event –<br />
especially people with an illness or<br />
disability, as many of us don’t want<br />
to be seen as incapable. But it is<br />
important to listen to your physical<br />
and emotional needs. Setting limits<br />
to protect yourself and your energy<br />
from harm is an important part of<br />
loving yourself.<br />
Whenever you need a little<br />
reminder of the importance of<br />
self-love, think of this quote from<br />
Buddha: ‘You, yourself, as much<br />
as anybody in the entire universe,<br />
deserve your love and affection.’<br />
Anna is a disability activist, and a<br />
freelance writer specialising in health<br />
and wellbeing.