The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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that you must reestablish a feeling of safety in the exact
area of life that traumatized you.
Often, if someone is traumatized by a relationship they
had when they were young, they will reinvest that energy
into valuing being attractive or successful. To them, they
believe that if they are “good enough,” they can never be
denied or rejected again. However, we all know this is not
how this works. It actually makes us have unhealthy and
destructive attachments to these things.
If we are traumatized by a relationship, we restore the feeling
of safety by working on other healthy, safe relationships.
If we are traumatized by money, we restore the feeling of
safety by doing what we must to ensure we have enough
and by saving for an emergency expense.
If we are traumatized by job loss, we restore the feeling of
safety by having a backup plan or a side gig in line in case
it were to happen again.
If we are traumatized by being bullied, we restore the feeling
of safety by finding new friends.
What most people try to do is overcompensate in an
area of life that is not the real problem. For example, if
they struggled in relationships, they hoard money to keep
themselves feeling “safe.” Of course, this is always futile,
because the problem never gets solved.