The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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than the fear of feeling the emotion, as the experience itself
is ultimately often just some physical tension around
which we’ve crafted a story.
Remember that a lot of these feelings may very well have
a root in something related to the self-sabotaging behavior.
If you are angry about how one of your parents treated
you, it probably won’t come as a surprise that the core feeling
of why you are sabotaging your relationships is anger
and mistrust. The feelings associated with self-sabotage
are not usually random. In fact, they can lead us to deeper
insights about what we really need and what problems
within us are still unresolved.
To fully release those feelings once you are aware of them,
try writing yourself a letter. Write something to your
younger self or from the perspective of your future self.
Write down a mantra or a manifesto. Remind yourself
that you love yourself too much to settle for less, or that it
is okay to be angry in unfair or frustrating circumstances.
Give yourself space to experience the depth of your emotions
so that they do not control your behaviors.
DISCONNECTING ACTION
AND FEELING
The final and most important lesson to overcome self-sabotage
is to learn to disconnect action from feeling.