The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest

THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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If we feel bad about not being as successful as another
person, we might try to find something negative about
them to make ourselves feel better. If we do that every
time we come across a person who is more successful than
we are, we begin to associate that level of success with
being disliked. When it comes time for us to take action
to move our lives forward, we’re going to resist doing it,
because becoming more successful will create a breach in
our self-concept.
In other cases, you might have heard people you grew up
around villainizing others who had money. They might
have said things like, “Ugh, rich people are the worst.”
Maybe they chalked all wealthy people up to being morally
corrupt. This sweeping characterization sealed itself in
your subconscious, and now you find yourself sabotaging
your own attempts to become financially healthy, because
you associate it with guilt and being disliked.
When we set up judgments for others, they become rules
that we have to play by, too. By judging others for what
we don’t have or because we envy them, we sabotage our
own lives far more than we ever really hurt anybody else.
HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Many people say that you have to love yourself first before
you can love others, but really, if you learn to love others,
you will learn to love yourself.