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The Closeted Experience<br />
Kina<br />
Questioning sexuality is like trying on different outfits. Some fit perfectly, some are a little<br />
uncomfortable, and some just do not feel like they are my aesthetic. We live in a modern world,<br />
and homosexuality is no longer foreign to most of us. However, the world has not been the kindest<br />
place for LGBTQ+ youth. With the risk of falling victim to hate crime, homelessness, and prejudice,<br />
I had to keep my sexuality to myself, even from my immediate family, for most of my life. More<br />
and more, I wanted to come out and have my mother accept me as I explored and accepted my<br />
identity; a billion uncertainties always stopped me. I had to deal with confusion, euphoria, sadness,<br />
relief, and anxiety as an adolescent while I explored my sexual orientation.<br />
I did my fair share of research as I tried to familiarize myself with different sexual orientations<br />
and identities. As the cliché goes, “Curiosity killed the cat,” but it never stopped me from<br />
becoming a curious and inquisitive child. Fortunately, I had the technology to answer my<br />
never-ending questions. I did not have to bother my parents with unnerving responses.<br />
However, when it came to the in-depth details of sexual identity, researching sexuality made<br />
me afraid that I would open Pandora’s box.<br />
My family’s elders always said it was a taboo “way of living,” so at a young age, I knew I must<br />
hide any questions related to homosexuality. An “Am I Gay Quiz” took me down the rabbit hole<br />
where I got a suspiciously high score for a twelve-year-old who just took that test thinking the<br />
only relationship I could have with the same gender was platonic. The internet took me deeper<br />
and deeper from that point, providing more information that gave me validation and assurance<br />
that I was not alone. I felt overwhelmed and scared but relieved that a community with people<br />
like me would welcome me. But it also scared me because I knew the repercussions against<br />
this community, especially from my conservative family.<br />
As most teenagers do in middle and high school, I started having crushes and going on<br />
dates with boys and girls; I did not fit into one box. It gave me a chance to thoroughly think<br />
through my preference and whether I preferred boys or girls. I had crushes on both, but more<br />
with girls and rarely with boys. By the end of high school, I had more good and bad romantic<br />
experiences with girls; I found that the butterflies in my stomach appeared most around my girl<br />
crushes. On the other hand, I realized I only felt an attraction to boys superficially, so I never<br />
got into serious relationships with them as I did with girls. I got along with men, but it always<br />
felt like a connection that friends have with each other.<br />
For as long as I remember, women have taken my breath away, and I could connect with them<br />
beyond a superficial level. I would be smitten by gorgeous women like most girls my age would<br />
go crazy about One Direction or Justin Bieber. I found it hard to relate with my friends (specifically<br />
girls) when it came to dating because I was the only girl among my peers that liked girls too. I kept<br />
exploring with an open mind and kept my options open to both men and women.<br />
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