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Tales from <strong>the</strong> O<strong>the</strong>r Side <strong>of</strong> Language 31<br />
My daughter returns to college after <strong>the</strong> summer <strong>of</strong> taking care <strong>of</strong> me.<br />
She looks forward to classes, friends, fun, and study, but it doesn’t happen.<br />
First, <strong>her</strong> fa<strong>the</strong>r’s mo<strong>the</strong>r dies, and <strong>the</strong>n two weeks later <strong>her</strong> advisor dies<br />
suddenly while recuperating from a successful surgery. She tries to cope,<br />
but this is too much death in <strong>her</strong> face. She arranges a leave <strong>of</strong> absence for <strong>the</strong><br />
semester and comes home.<br />
It’s no better at home for <strong>her</strong>; I am an unspoken, living face <strong>of</strong> death.<br />
Though I’ve escaped, I am deeply damaged. Home is not a relief. She becomes<br />
dramatic, angry, and emotional. I can’t meet <strong>her</strong> emotions, <strong>her</strong> grief, with any<br />
expression <strong>of</strong> my own. I haven’t <strong>the</strong> words to speak into <strong>the</strong> awful abyss <strong>of</strong><br />
death. In <strong>the</strong> tumult she makes a plan and goes to stay with <strong>her</strong> fa<strong>the</strong>r on <strong>the</strong><br />
West Coast, giving <strong>her</strong>self a s<strong>of</strong>ter place <strong>of</strong> refuge.<br />
A colleague invites me for a serene weekend to his home high on a cliff<br />
on <strong>the</strong> North Shore <strong>of</strong> Long Island. We walk <strong>the</strong> long stairs bounded by trees<br />
and bushes clinging to <strong>the</strong> fragile cliff to sit and talk on <strong>the</strong> fortified beach. He<br />
and his wife are interesting people, give me time to find words, talk seems<br />
easy. I enjoy <strong>the</strong> luxury <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> quiet with <strong>the</strong>m, away from <strong>the</strong> city.<br />
Months later his wife tells me <strong>the</strong>y thought me depressed, speaking so<br />
slowly. I’m stunned by <strong>her</strong> words. Elation is what I feel… not depression.<br />
How could <strong>the</strong>y so misinterpret my disability? How could <strong>the</strong>y not see how<br />
happy I am to be alive?<br />
It was random fortune that <strong>the</strong> clot didn’t break up into more pieces,<br />
didn’t smash bigger parts <strong>of</strong> my brain, more functions. The surgery gave me a<br />
safe brain, a new life. I’m severely crippled, but only in this one huge way. I’m<br />
hazed by death, sideswiped. I’m quietly delirious inside not to be dead.<br />
A clutch <strong>of</strong> close friends find my splintered speech entertaining. I hear<br />
<strong>the</strong>m clucking, “Did you hear <strong>her</strong> say she has to be on <strong>her</strong> toad—<strong>her</strong> toes?”<br />
“Did you hear that one?” They savor my ragged trials.<br />
I call my friend “Joke,” when <strong>her</strong> name is Jake. They don’t let me forget<br />
how amusing my words are.<br />
My next-door neighbor, a blustery lawyer, is outraged by <strong>the</strong>ir laughter.