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Even if there are no such dangers, it is good only for the present existence.
b. Education – There educated people who are conceit of the education - panna-mana.
Knowledge is an asset meant to teach people what is proper and what is not and how to be
civilized in cultural and social relations. However, it is a great shame to be conceited because of
one's education and academic qualifications. Education is something learnt from others and not
an extraordinary achievement.
Anyone can acquire formal education given the chance to learn from a good teacher.
c. Beauty - The conceit of physical beauty is the conceit of personal appearance. Because of
being free from dosa (hatred) in the previous existences, offering flowers, cleaning the pagoda
and monastery precincts, etc., one becomes famous for beauty in the present existence. One may
well take pride in such pleasant appearance.
However, on reflecting one's past, recalling how one had been free from hatred and had been
virtuous donors of water, flowers, etc., one should not feel conceited in this life. One should try
to culture good thoughts and be gentle and virtuous.
2.1.8. Hatred – Dosa
Anger or violence of mind is hatred – Dosa. Hatred results in violent but it also soils the mind. It
is not only wild and rude, but also depressive resulting in inferiority complex and living in fear;
they all belong to the category of dosa or hatred (ill will).
In brief sorrow, grief, fear, depression, anger, grudge, frightening others with abusive language,
attacking, planning to kill other people - all of these are dosa.
Since hatred accompanied by fear and violence the angry and violent person is also easily
frightened. Be aware of such persons. (Violence is ascending hatred, and fear is called
descending hatred.)
Example - The Story of a Lasso
In India, there once was a young woman who suffered from the evil consequences of hatred. The
story is related here to clarify the concept of anger – (dosa) and remind the parents who used to
force their sons and daughters into marriage without their consent, without love between bride
and bridegroom.
A young lad and a young woman in this story were not acquainted with each other before. The
parents betrothed and got them married. Though the young woman, being a daughter of a good
family, did her chores dutifully, the young lad neither appreciated her services nor loved her
sincerely. She began to be disappointed because he did not care for her in spite of her amiably
attending to him. She was unhappy and was often lost in despair. Her husband, having no love
for his wife, when seeing her depressed behavior hated her more and more and became violent.
Although she was unsatisfied with her husband's behavior, there was no choice for her but to
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