Digesting Jung: Food for the Journey - Inner City Books
Digesting Jung: Food for the Journey - Inner City Books
Digesting Jung: Food for the Journey - Inner City Books
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Personality and Aloneness<br />
The development of personality . . . is at once a charisma and a<br />
curse, because its first fruit is <strong>the</strong> segregation of <strong>the</strong> single individual<br />
from <strong>the</strong> undifferentiated and unconscious herd. This means isolation,<br />
and <strong>the</strong>re is no more com<strong>for</strong>ting word <strong>for</strong> it. Nei<strong>the</strong>r<br />
family nor society nor position can save one from this fate, nor yet<br />
<strong>the</strong> most successful adaptation to <strong>the</strong> environment. 83<br />
Being alone is relatively easy <strong>for</strong> introverts. They may lack a vital,<br />
on-going connection with <strong>the</strong> outer world but <strong>the</strong>y generally have<br />
an active inner life. Extraverts are used to hustle and bustle and find<br />
it more difficult to live with just <strong>the</strong>mselves. But whatever one’s<br />
typology, <strong>the</strong> great challenge in <strong>the</strong> development of personality is to<br />
find a personal center. Elsewhere in this book I have spoken of <strong>the</strong><br />
need <strong>for</strong> a personal container, but <strong>the</strong>y come to <strong>the</strong> same thing.<br />
Initially one’s center is projected onto <strong>the</strong> immediate family, a<br />
self-contained unit experienced as wholeness. Without a family,<br />
whe<strong>the</strong>r nurturing or repressive, we are apt to feel rootless, at loose<br />
ends. The loss of such a container is clearly at work behind <strong>the</strong><br />
emotional distress of orphans or a child whose parents split up, but<br />
that same motif is also constellated in grown-ups when one ascribes<br />
to values o<strong>the</strong>r than those sanctioned by <strong>the</strong> collective, or when any<br />
close relationship breaks up.<br />
Loneliness feels like one has been abandoned. Mythologically,<br />
abandonment is associated with <strong>the</strong> childhood experience of gods<br />
and divine heroes—Zeus, Dionysus, Poseidon, Moses, Romulus<br />
and Remus, and so on. In fact, <strong>the</strong> motif is so widespread that <strong>Jung</strong><br />
describes abandonment as “a necessary condition and not just a<br />
concomitant symptom,” of <strong>the</strong> potentially higher consciousness<br />
83 “The Development of Personality,” The Development of Personality, CW 17,<br />
pars. 293f.<br />
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