Digesting Jung: Food for the Journey - Inner City Books
Digesting Jung: Food for the Journey - Inner City Books
Digesting Jung: Food for the Journey - Inner City Books
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100 The Puer/Puella Syndrome<br />
In <strong>the</strong> picture on <strong>the</strong> card, <strong>the</strong> Fool, like a hobo, carries a sack<br />
tied to a stick. They leave you, <strong>the</strong>se men, but <strong>the</strong>y never said <strong>the</strong>y<br />
were staying, never said <strong>the</strong>y were committed, or purposeful—or responsible,<br />
even. All <strong>the</strong>y want is to have a good time. And what’s<br />
wrong with that? Nothing, except you begin to wonder how interested<br />
you are in just having a good time. . . .<br />
The joy of being with <strong>the</strong>se men is <strong>the</strong> giddy return, through<br />
<strong>the</strong>m, to a child’s world, where <strong>the</strong>re are no clocks and no claims on<br />
your time, no clo<strong>the</strong>s to be kept clean, and no consequences to be<br />
considered. Days and nights are filled with <strong>the</strong> silliness, <strong>the</strong> spontaneity,<br />
<strong>the</strong> conspiratorial privacy, and all <strong>the</strong> breathless secret pleasures<br />
of life in a tree house. . . .<br />
They don’t always come home, and <strong>the</strong>y won’t even apologize<br />
<strong>for</strong> it. They won’t help around <strong>the</strong> house because <strong>the</strong>y like it all<br />
messed up. They won’t work very hard because <strong>the</strong>y don’t want to<br />
get trapped by success. And <strong>the</strong>y won’t work at <strong>the</strong> relationship because<br />
it’s not supposed to be work, it’s supposed to be fun. If you<br />
don’t want to play with <strong>the</strong>m, <strong>the</strong>y don’t mind. But that isn’t going<br />
to stop <strong>the</strong>m from playing.<br />
Somehow, <strong>the</strong>y make you feel very old, <strong>the</strong>se men. They turn you<br />
into <strong>the</strong>ir mo<strong>the</strong>r. 99<br />
Of course, not every woman finds such men “wildly attractive,”<br />
much less irresistible. Why not? Well, following <strong>the</strong> natural “law”<br />
that we see in o<strong>the</strong>rs traits of our own of which we are unconscious<br />
(<strong>the</strong> essence of projection), women who fall <strong>for</strong> puers are <strong>the</strong>mselves<br />
quite likely to be puellas. And, as it happens, vice versa.<br />
The typical puer shirks responsibility <strong>for</strong> his actions, and understandably<br />
so, since what he does is not within his conscious control.<br />
He is at <strong>the</strong> mercy of his unconscious, and is especially vulnerable<br />
to his instinctive drives. He is prone to do what “feels right.” However,<br />
he is so alienated from his true feelings that what feels right<br />
one minute often feels wrong <strong>the</strong> next. Hence, <strong>for</strong> instance, he may<br />
find himself in erotic situations that cause him a good deal of distress<br />
<strong>the</strong> next day—or indeed that night, in his dreams.<br />
99 Marsha Norman, The Fortune Teller, pp. 116f.