Handout 2B: The Five Circles of SexualitySensualityHow our bodies give andreceive pleasure.Involves all of the senses(touch, sight, smell, taste,sound).Explains our need to betouched. Includes our abilityto fantasize.Sexual Health Ourbehavior related toreproduction and our sexualorgans(e.g.., STIs, pregnancy)Relationships/IntimacyOur ability to love, trust, and carefor othersSexual IdentityIncludes fourelements1. Biological Sex: is based on ourphysical status of being either maleor female2. Gender Identity: How we feelabout being male or female3. Gender Roles: Society’sexpectations of us based on oursex4. Sexual Orientation: the sex towhich we are attracted to sexuallySexuality to ControlOthers Using sex toviolate someone’s rightsor get something fromanother(e.g.. advertisements,rape)26
Handout 2C: Definitions for Circles of SexualitySensuality – Sensuality is how our bodies derive pleasure. It is the part of our body that deals with thefive senses: touch, sight, hearing, smell, and taste. Any of these senses, when enjoyed, can be sensual. Askthe participants to provide examples of how a person might enjoy each of the five senses in a sensualmanner. The sexual response cycle is also part of our sensuality because it is the mechanism that enablesus to enjoy and respond to sexual pleasure.Our body image is part of our sensuality. Whether we feel attractive and proud of our bodies influencesmany aspects of our lives.Our need to be touched and held by others in loving and caring ways is called skin hunger. Adolescentstypically receive less touch from family members than do young children. Therefore, many teens satisfytheir skin hunger through close physical contact with a peer. Sexual intercourse may result from a teen’sneed to be held, rather than from sexual desire. Fantasy is part of sensuality. Our brain gives us thecapacity to fantasize about sexual behaviors and experiences, without having to act upon them.Intimacy/relationships – Intimacy is the part of sexuality that deals with relationships. Our ability tolove, trust, and care for others is based on our levels of intimacy. We learn about intimacy fromrelationships around us, particularly those within our families.Emotional risk-taking is part of intimacy. In order to experience true intimacy with others, a person mustopen up and share feelings and personal information. We take a risk when we do this, but intimacy is notpossible otherwise.Sexual identity – Every individual has his or her own personal sexual identity. This can be divided intofour main elements:Biological sex is based on our physical status of being either male or female.Gender identity is how we feel about being male or female. Gender identity starts to form at around agetwo, when a little boy or girl realizes that he or she is different from the opposite sex. If a person feels likehe or she identifies with the opposite biological sex, he or she often considers himself or herselftransgender. In the most extreme cases, a transgender person will have an operation to change his or herbiological sex (often called gender “re-assignment” surgery) so that it can correspond to his or her genderidentity.Gender roles are society’s expectations of us based on our biological sex. Ask the group to think about whatbehaviors we expect of men and what behaviors we expect of women. These expectations are genderroles.Sexual orientation is the final element of sexual identity. Sexual orientation refers to the biological sex thatwe are attracted to romantically. Our orientation can be heterosexual (attracted to the opposite sex),bisexual (attracted to both sexes), or homosexual (attracted to the same sex). People often confuse sexualorientation and gender roles. For example, if a man is feminine or a woman is masculine, people oftenassume that these individuals are homosexual. Actually, they are expressing different gender roles. Theirmasculine or feminine behavior has nothing to do with their sexual orientation. A gay man may befeminine, masculine, or neither. The same applies to heterosexual men. Also, a person may engage insame-sex behavior and not consider himself or herself homosexual. For example, men in prison mayhave sex with other men but may consider themselves heterosexual.Sexual health – Sexual health involves our behaviour related to producing children, enjoying sexualactivities, and maintaining our sexual and reproductive organs. Issues like sexual intercourse, pregnancy,27